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    i was at work today and i had my afro going on and this white girl tells me that my hair would look really cute if i flattened my hair and put a part in the middle like halle berry. i said that isnt a afro i said if i wanted my hair to look like halle berry i wouldnt have nappy hair duh right. i hate ignorant people they act like we have nappy hair on accident or somethin almost how when your to lazy to shave your legs or somethin they act like were to lazy to go get a perm.

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    You know I was just thinking about white women and our hair. I just finished braiding my hair (cornrows in front and box braids in back) and I was pondering the comments I would get when I go to class on Monday. I'm in grad school and it's predominantly white women in my program. There's one woman who always has something to say about my hair, usually compliments. She's admitted that she's a bit envious, but she's also told me that I should get extensions. Overall, they've given me compliments. They've even told me that they like my hair better natural, which is nice but I certainly don't need their approval.

    I don't understand why white women seem to feel so free to comment on my hair. Even when I wore a perm white girls I knew would tell me my hair looked better a certain way or I should do my hair some kind of way. I've found that black women don't have nearly as much to say about my hair as white women. I feel you Lavinea. I generally don't pay it that much mind, but I fear one day someone is gonna say the wrong thing on the wrong day and I won't be nice.

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    Man, please. She'd get a good fake laugh and/or an and/or a nice tongue-lashin' in a classy way. Like they have the right to say anything about our hair. Please. Next time, tell 'em what they should do with their hair.

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    All I have to say is there will always be someone who has something to say -- some IMPROVEMENT to make to your hair, clothes, makeup, nail polish... It's not limited to the race of the person, it's in their upbringing. It's no stranger's business to comment on your hair or any other part of your person and to do so is presumptuous and rude.

    ~Molly~

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    It's interesting because most of the white girls at my predominately white school love my afro n naptural hair.
    I got more of a positive response from whites than blacks.
    Hmmm...

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    All I have to say is there will always...

    what dee said...

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    amen sistahs then the same girl i told her i bought a webcam for my computer and this girl makes the comment oh i dont know what that is what is that some black girl hair thing. what the heck! i really think some people are so ignorant it's just sad.

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    All I have to say is there will always...

    ITA with Molly coz that has been my personal experience....

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    It's interesting because most of the white girls at...

    Well when I was at my predominantly white college in quaint New England, the white girls were definately intimidated by my fro. It was big and bad(in the good way! ) and they were like "Uh...... :-? "everytime they saw me wearing my hair out. My cornrows, twists and eventually locks didn't really disturb them. Oh but the turban style headwrap.....man oh man, those girls get freaked out by that!

    fftopic All the blacks girls always were feeling my natural styles though. And it was great to see alot of them transition and chop the relaxers off over the 4 years I was there. A classmate of mine at a neighboring college even taught a 4 week seminar on natural hair for black women!!!! She did an awesome job too!

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    amen sistahs then the same girl i told her...

    see it's juss her...she juss is prolly envious of u and not to smart too...lolllll

    i notice around town i get more smiles and juss looks(not bad ones) from white ppl than i do blacks...black ppl try to ack like they dont see me when i pass...the look str8 ahead approach...lollll

    i think white women(some) want the nice nappy look but cant get it...i like the fact that some admire it...

    but i do understand that ppl think u r nappy by accident or to lazy to get permed...i am all to happy to set them str8 whenever i get a chance

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    Most of the compliments that I've gotten on my hair have come from white women. Like Molly said, someone will ALWAYS have some type of suggestion on what "NEEDS" to be done with your hair. However, I'm also realizing that when I them advice on what they could do with their hair, they aren't usually so thrilled...shuts them right up...

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    IMO, many white women fear and revile afro-textured hair. Only those that are very comfortable with you and/ or are not very bright and have absolutely no manners will open their mouths to make a comment.

    In my life, the only people that have seemed as obsessed as Black people with Black people's hair are white women :-cre . It doesn't make any sense, but, since a teen I have been constantly asked, 'what did you do to your hair' or 'how do blaaaaaack people make their hair like that'...

    I have heard either directly or overheard white women making disparaging or just plain ignorant comments on Black hair. I guess some people just need to get a life.

    Either way, it's really none of anyone's business how you wear your hair.

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    i think white women(some) want the nice nappy look but cant get it...i like the fact that some admire it...

    So True!

    Most of my compliments come from white people and people of other races. They love it.

    Even before I was natural I would always get compliments on my braids from white people. Back in the day when I had very short hair, they would ask me how I got my hair so curly. I would tell them that it's naturally curly and getting it straight was the problem. I guess I could understand the confusion since the day before it may have been dead straight. They could'nt figure it out. They can't phathom how to acheive the look or how hair could be so versatile. It would trip me out when they'd ask if I got a hair cut when I'd come in with a new style. I thought it was such a stupid question because my hair might look longer than it did the day before. Then I realized they ask because that's all they can do to change their hair style, cut it.

    I love when white co-workers ask me how they can get their hair to "do that" and I politely tell them they can't.

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    Sometimes I think some white women are just struck by how different we look from them. And many of them don't know many blacks and so when they get around us they just can't help but compare. Whereas, we see them all the time. Plastered all over the TV, and magazine ads. We don't have to analyze or ponder their appearance.

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