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  • "we Are Not Pickin' Cotton Anymore..."

     

    :Angry: Aight...me and my friends decided to chill in Adams Morgan in DC tonight cuz there was nothin else to do. Out of the 7 of us, 1 in already natural and 3 of us are transitioning. My friends are havin a hard time findin styles for their hair so they put a headband on and a ponytail. So this heffa out the blue just say as we're walkin by "We are not pickin cotton anymore...Ima need you to comb your f-in hair!" So...me shocked by the comment and extremely pissed at the current ignorant trend that's goin around, I tell her stankin ss to take that dirty weave out her hair. Of course being ghetto she tries to pick a fight with us...but us being educated we walk away. Yeah I kno if I was really educated I would have just not said anything...but I'm tired of people being so ignorant. Black people are likes crabs in a barrel and this is getting old forreal. I'm not gonna let anyone disrespect my friends let alone nappy hair. It's not goin down...this is just another stupid comment post...I needed to get it off my chest. <_<

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    Well, I'm glad you said something to that facety heffa!!! Sometimes it's worth it just for you to feel better - better that than you posting you wish you had! Get it off your chest and walk on. ...Yay you!!

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    When people say such things, no matter who they are, (i.e., strangers, accquaintences or loved ones) it usually means "How dare you embarass me with your nappy hair? How dare you expose our secret and our shame? It's so incredibly sad that African hair in it's natural state can evoke such negative reactions from our own. Just remember, these types of comments simply reveal their own insecurities about nappy hair. Seeing you just reminded that young lady some of us are once again "uncovering and exposing the truth." Too bad they don't know that the truth can surely set them free.

    So cliche' but very true. And Bejewelle is right. Those other young ladies didn't deserve any more of your precious time than the little bit you gave them! I'm sure you went on to enjoy the evening with your friends.
    No need to let ignorance ruin your fun!

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    Wonder what she was hiding under the horse hair?

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    Good thing you walked away! It takes a lot to do that. You probably would have pulled that horse hair out!

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    You say you were in Adams-Morgan. Girl you might find some ignorant azz's in that area and for that matter anywhere. But yeah every now and then you run across some stupidity.

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    I'm glad you said what you had to say. Black folks got it bad that they HAVE to say something. It's really annoying. Sometimes you just have to respond.

    The only thing I can suggest is..become a natural bonafide "SMART A$$"...think and practice what you will say regarding negative hair comments... The smile is key, never let them see you get angry..cause they know they've touched a nerve. The best comebacks are concise and to the point, delivered with confidence , no anger, and ALWAYS with a calm demeanor and a smile. You will always have the idiot walking away seething.

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    so sad. you n your friends did good to say the little bit you did and walk away. you all must've been really cute that day for them to attack u like that~

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    Geeez Louise! Some people are just ignorant as heck. I agree with Me Happy Me's comment--I think some people flip out when they see our hair because it remind them of what they hate and what they're trying to hide. I'm glad you said something back. There have been times when I wanted to say something (and not to mention that I'm not a confrontational person; but still, maybe I need to sling their mess right back at them), but I would be caught off guard at their ignorance, and the words wouldn't come fast enough.

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    The only thing I can suggest is..become a natural bonafide...

    fftop:

    lamonica i think we were separated at birth.

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    WOW!! IM SPEECHLESS

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    I am so sorry you had to hear that. Some people have no sense.

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    I'm also shocked and angry that you had to go through that. What an ignorant girl! Was she ever picking cotton? Does natural, African-type hair mean that you're immediately a slave??? wtf? Her comment doesn't even make sense. Dang, if you're going to be an a$# you might as well be knowledgeable and witty. Anyways, I'm glad you responded to her and even more glad that you and your friends walked away and decided not to fight her.

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    First thought that came to my mind:

    I, being a free woman, have the strength and self-esteem to wear my own natural hair.

    You on the other hand I'm not sure, seeing you insist upon sewing in the very texture of hair of those that enslaved you. _twak:

    Okay I know it was not right, but that is what came up into my mind. Howver I am very glad you walked away.

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    I, being a free woman, have the strength and self-esteem...

    quelinda, you know how to handle yourself, lady. I hope I can remember this in case I have a confrontation!

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    You should have said, "I's a free woman massa, you da one look like a slave."

    Good comeback though, for real. Sometimes you just gotta speak up.

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    You know we diss that have gone before us picking cotton but had they not endured all that suffering (and the grace of God) we would not be here today.

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    So cliche' but very true. And Bejewelle is right. Those...

    This is a side bar----but when you posed the question as if it were another person speaking, "How dare you exposed our secret and our shame"? I was really feeling that. It's like before there was the CFC, we used straightnening combs, but what shame is there in showing your true self. I'm transitioning, and I finding out alot about myself. Why would someone be so ignorant to to tell someone to comb their hair, when that person ain't even combing their own hair, but the hair they paid for.
    Ain't it funny how we will take care of the store bought hair better than the hair that the maker blessed us with.

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    Are you kidding me????? WTF is her problem? She was probably ugly and stank lookin with a rediculous weave on her head. By rediculous I mean that horrible shiney hair that doesn't fit us at all. Yet Black women insist on putting that mess on their heads. It just doesn't look right on us!

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    You on the other hand insist upon sewing in...

    I love that.

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    fftop i think we were separated at birth.
    Ya know I was thinking the SAME THING.

    But back to the subject at hand..

    Here are some good responses to the "We ain't pickin Cotton" crap

    "No, my Masa makes me trim the the Clydesdales, so you can get dat stuff sewn in yo head"

    "We also are years into the Black Power Movement, you should catch up ."

    "Yeah..we'll I think Angela Davis is a better role model than Farrah Fawcett."

    "you should pick some cotton honey..you need a new outfit."

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    Over the years forum member have shared lots of ignorant comments from non-hairs with us, but this incident just about beats all! I feel sadness for the woman who made this statement which speaks volumes about her.

    Thank God I know my hair looks good! Can't nobody tell me nothing!

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    ^^ But of course there are people reading this thread and saying "See, those forum women are too mean to their sisters, they need to show more love."

    For those who still may not have a clue: Among other things, forum is the place to go when you need to vent after having to deal with yet another ignorant comment from people who SHOULD know better. Sometimes you have the grace to handle ignorance, and sometimes you don't. That's okay. forum is a safe place to share your stories.

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    Personally....I could careless if anyone thinks I'm mean. It's all a simple "Get What You Give". I don't choose to wear weave, and I have never had a chemical fire cream in my hair. But I don't give anyone else any grief for having chosen to do so.

    To any woman who may be here to prove women who choose to be natural are "Mean"..I say this.Treat us with respect and we'll treat you just the same. I don't hate that you wear weave, or have a chemical fire cream , or press like I use to...It's your head, and if you like it I love it. . ..But I also love my hair the way it is naturally. And it's NOT for anyone to tell me that something is wrong with me...It is especially not for me to be nice to you when your aim is to try to humiliate me in public...I mean GEEZ..if my breath stinks..you don't yell it out into a crowded room , not if you are trying to be my friend and "HELP" me. You pull me to the side and offer me a stick of gum. It's called tact.

    I am NOT reiterating that there is ANYTHING wrong with any of our natural heads..I'm just giving an example of how things can be handled.

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    I just looked at the link in Natitwist album, "A girl like me".

    Comments like this, attitudes like this, thinking like this still exist even though we are not to far removed from our "cotton picking" days.

    The poison of inter-racism is so cancerous...we are still experiencing it today.

    Represent ya'll. Please represent the natural you as the beauty, and the conformity to this thinking as the lie.

    That is the only way to slowly melt this toxic thinking...represent who we really are.

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    Her comments reflect her insecurities about being African-American. On the flip side, having straight hair brings out my insecurities of trying to be white.

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    that is sad....i tell u ignorance knows no bounds....the nerve of some people

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    i went to the bank the other day and this woman just starting laughing to herslef when she saw me. i felt her looking at me then looking away smiling. so to my amazement, her laughter stopped when this good looking dude tried to holla at me. and this other dude complimented me. and other dudes were checkin' it out. ooohhhh, but i look funny cuz my hair nappy? bytch, hair don't stop cute and my hair is cute also! :P and to top it off, it really belongs to me!

    i am edcuated. but i'm also hot headed. it woulda been some shyt goin' down and i would have left with her hair in my hand! :Angry: why are people so worried about what you do with your hair? i am not understaning this. it's your damn hair. mind your business before you get slapped! sometimes you want to be the bigger person and turn the other cheek because you know ignorance is contagious, but sometimes people just provoke you. when i see people with red weaves that match their jeans and jordan's like the chic at the bus stop lookin' at me like i'm stupid, do i say shyt...no! <_< crabs in a barrel is the perfect explanation.

    you just giving me attention, ho, by hatin'....please continue!

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    My hair is soft like cotton and I pick it every day.

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    I am speechless.....I don't even know how I would of reacted if someone would have said that to me. I would of lost my mind.

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