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    Did anyone else see the "parents" on Judge Hatchet who were suing about re.laxer burns on their *three year old* ?!? Poor baby had second degrees burns and this isn't even her first perm (mor elike her third). How long have they been perming her hair? And why?

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    whaaaaat!!!! talk about child abuse

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    thats sick. but then it is just pure ignorance that many, many people have. when the idea that nappy hair is unmangeable and that straight is best, it fails to surprise me that they've done this. not to mention companies are targetting relaxxers at children as young as five (just for me, anyone...?), so many have it into their heads that relaxxers are fine for children. it's sad but unsurprising. and her parents are very foolish.

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    I'm watching that right now. :Angry: :Angry: :Angry:

    The girl is 3 and tenderheaded, of course she's gonna get burns...

    I nearly cried when I got my first perm at around 14, so I can only imagine what it's like for a gd 3 year old. I mean for real, how many adults are getting chemical burns, scabs,etc? So why would someone expect that not to happen to a toddler?

    I'm tempted to call that lazy. How hard is it to put a 3 year old's hair into puffs??? They cant have that much hair...

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    The girl is 3 and tenderheaded, of course she's gonna...

    Ezactly. Manageablity, schmanageablity. How hard is it to "manage" 3 year's old?? The parents just want(ed) a "look" for the child that is other than what she came with.

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    the thing about this though is the companies put disclaimers on the box about not using r.elaxers on children under the age of 8 years. Never mind the kids on the box are like 5 yrs old. I'm sorry, but I still don't understand why anyone would use these strong chemicals on infants. Even if you believe nappy hair is unmanageable, why would you chemically treat your baby's hair at such a tender age?? People would be dismayed if you said your colour treated your child's hair at 3, but if it's a r.elaxer, no one is shocked. I just don't get it.

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    That makes me :Angry: . That child will never have the opportunity to have kimgustafson hair if she is starting off with second degree scalp burns.

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    My sister-in-law started perming her daughter's hair at 2. <_< AND weaving it. Needless to say, at 17 years old, she has about *snap* that much hair - under the perm and weave, of course. That poor child's hair is so damaged, I wonder if she CAN grow a twa.

    On a field trip with my daughter last week, one of her classmates came told me that she got a perm for her 8th birthday. I wanted to cry.

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    *sigh* If a child is young enough to be breastfed or still wearing huggies then they probably should't get a perm.

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    i understand about there being disclaimers but i know jfm texture softener, which is essentially just a relaxxer aim their product at 5 year olds and over. still, the child is even too young (although, in my opinion relaxxers should not be put on children at all) and thats what i mean about the parents being extremely foolish. some said lazy, i would certainly call them lazy too. lazy, brainwashed and ignorant. if this childs mother is brainwashed enough to use a relaxxer herself (i'm assuming she herself is relaxxed too) and confroms to this european ideal of beauty (not saying every relaxxed head is, just that this is clearly true in her case) she probably cannot manage her childs head, has got it into her head nappy is unmageable and thinks straight is best. she would be unwilling to learn and most likely stubborn about ideas surrounding nappy hair - look how quick she was to get rid of it on her own daughter.

    i think although they may know about burns and scabs they probably thought a childrens relaxxer was too weak to do this so procedeed. there is highly NoluckttcH and manipulative marketing behind those kiddie relaxxers that make ignorant and foolish parents believe these relaxers are much safer and do not come with the hazzards associated with "adult" relaxxers.

    i think the parents are incredibly stupid and instead of trying to sue people, they should be mad at themselves for their own stupidity. it seems to me they want to lay blame for their mistakes elsewhere because they are most likely feeling very guilty for their actions. and i think people are not dismayed about relaxxing a childs hair is because it is not uncommon in our society. there is no shock value there, there are products markered specifically for children. i do not see any hair colours marketed for children so people are not use to this at all. whats more it's about supply and demand, if black families didn't want to relax their childs head with childrens relaxxers, there would be no market for them. its people like that poor childrens family that make this industry continue to thrive. if black people (cus white people wouldnt have done it) had kicked up a fuss long ago over these relaxxers, then they may not even be around at all.

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    This is SO true! If she ever decides for herself that natural is the way to go, she won't have any hair to show for it. Silly parents.

    What was the verdict? Did someone point out she was too young, anyway? I mean, really. How was the beautician supposed to know it's burn her, if the parents didn't? Do people not understand what LYE is and what it does?

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    What was the verdict on this madness?

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    i wonder if the race of the judge would make a difference of the verdict. a white judge would probably be confused about why the mom would put chemicals in the childs hair. the black judge may think it's normal.

    so what was the verdict?

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    Judge Milian once let a Black mother have it for doing this do a small child-- she was pretty outraged-- I forget the case in detail, maybe someone else could recollect, but she bLev77ally told the mom that it was a shame that she couldn't be proud of the hair that she already had.... or something like that.

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    I remember that. Sad thing is, the mother walked out of the courtroom with every intention of perming the child's hair again.

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    I have a question how long were the parents gone for it to have burned her like that

    and the man is full of it because the first thing he said was he would never do anything to hurt a child and he knew a child that young shouldn't get a real.xer so y not refuse to do it

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    I remember this case. The mother was suing for the cost of the services and the medication that her daughter had to have after her scalp got burnt. Judge Milian "went off" on the mother AND on the beautician lady who did the little girl's hair.

    Judge Milian was like "how dare you" make her suffer just to make it easy on you. And the mom was like "her hair was unmanagable" etc etc. And judge milian was like, "how difficult can it be". The judge figured out that she just wanted the girl to have straight hair, and told pretty much told her that she was teaching the girl bad habits. She went off the on the beautician too, she was like, "just because her mother doesn't have any sence, doesn't mean you should act like you don't know better." etc etc.

    I also saw a case like this on judge judy with a grown mom2b86, She had a bald spot in the middle of her head and major breakage. The lady had her hair pulled back in a bun and then she pulled pieces of her hair up to show judge judy and judge judy was like, "so, just don't do that" She didn't give lady much if anything, if my memory serves me right.

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    OMG! I feel so sad for that innocent, defenseless child! How could the mother and the beautician put such a harsh chemical on a 3 year old's head?!!! My heart aches for the poor girl. I agree; applying a chemical that can (and does) cause severe burns to any part of a young child's body is child abuse. :Angry:

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    I saw that Judge Milian show too. And just like a mindreader, I could read that plaintiff's mind: "Well (hmph) she got that good hair, she don't know what she talking about..."

    Inquiring minds want to know what Judge Hatchett said!

    Considering the recent case in yajoks125ain about an obese 8-year-old, I wonder what would happen if Child Protective Services took action on this couple. Second-degree burns are second-degree burns...regardless of whether they're from fire or a chemical process.

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    My niece who is now 4-years-old has been getting a chemical fire 2of62ontheway for at least the last year and a half. She has beautiful cloud naps, and I guess that was too much for her mother to handle. Her mother has *snap* much hair and it is always gelled to death, slicked back or under a weave. And she does the same thing to her daughter and 3 and 4 YEARS OLD!! I thought I would boil when I saw her hair straight! And this was before I had decided to even transition myself. Before her mom relaxed it, she used to load it down with grease and gel, and it would be so caked with grime that I would wash it.

    There really should be a legal age limit put into place for CFC's. Because its ridiculous. I wish people would stop being so stupid and nappy-phobic that they hurt their own kids over it.

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    so what was the verdict?...

    I didn't get to see the verdict, I was heading to class. I'll ask my Mom about it when she gets in.

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    I saw something like this on People's Court, Judge Milian ripped into a mom2b86 for sending her child the message that her hair's not good enough as it is. I was like wow, there's so many black mothers eligible to hear this speech...for some reason I get the image of church on Sundays, so many little girls with presses and perms.

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    <_< What the he#* is wrong with that childs parents? How u gonna perm a toddler?

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    My older cousin, about 10 years ago, sent her then 8 year old daughter to her father's family's house for the weekend, when she went to pick her up, the aunt had put a r.elaxer in her daughter's hair without my cousin's permission. Needless to say she was peeved (to put it nicely). I can't understand why they would think it was ok to do that. I think our society has conditioned us to believe that our hair is truly unmanageable in it's natural state. So sad.

    On another note (veering off topic). When I was putting r.elaxers in my hair (in the past), my daughter would see me buy the kiddie perms, and she wanted me to put one in her hair so badly (she's 7). Even though I was still living the lye, I refused to put that mess in my daughter's hair. Now that I stopped r.elaxing my hair, and explaining the beauty of my daughter's hair and my hair to her, she is soooo anti-r.elaxer. When we were in the "ethnic" (whatever that means) beauty aisle at Walmart the other day, she said the girl on the r.elaxer box was ugly. I quickly explained to her that she should never call anyone ugly, and she said I didn't mean she was ugly, just that she has a p.erm, and that's ugly. It was good to see that my daughter is starting to understand that natural hair is beautiful (although I let her know that she still shouldn't see the other girl as ugly simply because she has a perm). It just shows me that my daughter is not only listening to what I say, but she is exEmilyrIng my actions too. She seemed to only really start appreciating her nappy curls, once I started appreciating mine.

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    I just dont understand it. I was reading someone hair story on fotki and they got their first perm at 11 months?!?!? My initial thought was "they had to be lying" but then I thought about it, if mother was constantly getting her hair done by someone she might not have been able to handle it and thought it would be easier if it was tamed. I believe that is very extreme and borderline child abuse. Putting chemicals in toddlers heads is just wrong no matter how you look at it.

    I got my first pe.rm when I was 8 I believe and I only got one a year. Getting a "mild" p.erm helped my sister do my hair until my mother found her a job in NC where we lived with my military father. My mother worked for the government and my sister was in high school so that is what we did. I have always been blessed to have great hair dressers that take care of my hair and to this day I remember Ms. Penny giving me that p.erm and then right after platting my hair up and sending me on my way so I would look cute for church LOL

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    What did Judge Hatchett say? Anything about the ignorance of a 3 year old getting a perm mentioned?

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    I only read some of these posts. The original post makes me so . Why .

    She's a baby. And she was violated. She has/had no say so in the matter. I sure hope there is no permanent damage. I hope she can still grow hair and I pray that little girl gets to experience beautiful nappiness like us and our children. _headshake:

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    I didn't see the case, but the beautician should have his license suspended for the damage he caused. not to mention the mother of the child needs to face charges too. That poor girl is gonna be scarred for life.

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    So wrong, so wrong. Just don't understand how people could do that to their children. And the worst part is after all the damage will be done, they will think that it's the hair itself that is bad and not the stuff they put the child through. A baby is soo cute with afro puffs.....

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    did judy get on the parents? thats ridiculous. CFCs should be taken off the market- seriously. they do more harm than good

    i think im at the nappy stage where i absolutely cant stand straight hair on black people (or maybe its my big hair obsession talking). not to talk down about people who re.lax their hair still BUT COME ON! when your hair hasnt passed your chin in the past 5-6 years, you NEED to snap out of it and put the lye down. or if i can see your scalp all the way from the other side of the room, you need to seriously check yourself (and im not talking about people with thin hair. yall know what im talking about)

    this mess is beginning to hurt!! i cringe FOR people now

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