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    I've had that said to me, but I respond...

    I used to have this argument with a coworker of mine. EVERY time that he would see me, he would ask me why I did my hair like that. I would respond with why do you have a problem with me wearing my hair the way that it grows out of my scalp...He has biracial children whose hair he admires...but my hair is just to nappy...One time I had a guy (another coworker) instruct me on how to get my hair to "lay down" with pink oil moisturizer and a scarf. I have 4b NAPPY whatever you want to call it hair, and I am NOT going to spend hours FIGHTING its texture. I also get negativity when I choose NOT to wear makeup. Somehow, when I wear my natural hair, I just don't feel like I NEED it, and people make assumptions about that....oh well... I LOVE MY HAIR!!

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    My grandmother used to say "Your too pretty to...

    The other day my granny told me I was "too pretty to have nappy hair". (BTW granny is a strong christain). I told her "then God didn't mean for me to be pretty, because this is the hair he gave me". My grand father started laughing so hard and told my granny, "That the style now, that's how these young business women on the news are wearing their hair". I was thinking "Thanks papa!" and at the same time "how does an 80 yr old man know what's ion stlye!!!!"

    Babygirl,

    That's a great story and your Gramps sounds cool to me.

    My relatives and friends haven't seen me with my nappy hair yet; I didn't go natural 'til I moved to Norway. I have taken pictures, but I haven't emailed them because I have about 10 rolls of film I have yet to develop. I'm sure when they do see my new look, some of 'ems heads will start spinning on their necks. :-cre

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    Wow, my mom used to stay stupid sh*t like...why dont you do something with your hair yada yada...or the worst it got from my friends is I could never do it man.. btw one of them has now been natural for the last 2 years.

    The folks at work love my hair...espeically the white folks...most black folks dont say much about my hair...I guess they just have nothing to say. Doesnt bother me none....

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    One of my co-workers came up to me and told...

    I tip my hat to you for handling yourself the way you did. That couldn't have been me. I would've told her a$$ that she was too ugly to be human.

    That's coming from a person who is a couple of bread slices short of a full loaf.

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    people are so confused

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    people are so confused ...

    And that's the simple truth...

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    The other day my granny told me I was "too...

    Great response!

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    Yeah i get that comment too. My "attackers" are...

    OOOOOOH!!!!
    Thank you!!! You are so right.......
    You said exactly what I was feeling...
    So many people kept touchin my hair, and with rude comments nonetheless......
    I told people to stop touching and rough-housin my hair, cuz they luv to ruffle it, like u didn't just spend your time pickin out all the dents or somethin........
    I started asking people stuff like "Would you be ruffling my hair like that if I had a relaxer?"
    They actually started treatin me like a boy........

    Obviously, I need to wear more skirts and earrings........not to mention them keepin their hands out of my head......Don't even say "Can I touch your hair?"

    Just go and stick their hands right in your head, might as well be touchin my face, or pokin at me w/ a stick or something.......Darned so-and-sos........blah blah blah

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    AFashionSlave

    I thought I was the only one who heard the worms on your head comment from family. This my first post on this site. I have lurked for more than a year though. I had my last relaxer in February 2001. I transitioned with braids for a year. I have been wearing my hair in rod sets or twists for the last year. My parents do not like the natural hair. My mother even told me to get a mild relaxer just to stretch it out a bit. I have tried to explain, I just don't want any more relaxers. They ask Never again. I respond Never Again

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    Kinda reminds me of the time I was showing a picture of my 7-year old daughter who has locs to a lady. She asked me "Why you do that to that child's hair as fair (light skinned) as she is???" DUH???!!!! I fail to see the correlation between skin color and hair style choices!

    "My people perish for lack of knowledge..."

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    My BF's mother just said something to me about this on Sunday, in the CHURCH HOUSE!!! She told me that there was nothing elegant or sophisticated about having nappy loc'd hair. I had to tell her that if our foremothers and fathers hadn't thought that the Missus up in the big house were elegant and sophisticated we never woulda started straightening our hair. These brainwashed negroes KILL me

    Kaoticcoil

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    Then when I wore twists she said "Oh lord...

    That was my dad straight up. I think he assumed that I would get a twa and keep it that way forever. He always kept telling me not to get tehm worms on my head (but my extension braids were okay, HUH?).

    When he saw me with them the first time, all he could say was that they fit me and he really liked them.

    So see, and old dog can learn new tricks.

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    I just terminated my first and only experiment with braid extensions after about 3 and a half weeks! It was a relief to be able to get out of the house without my usual "how the heck am I going to do my hair" drama (now about 5 and a half inches and the puff thing was getting pretty tired!)

    However, I felt like such a FAKE, as if I'd sold out naptural beauty. It's not like I had unnaturally long Rapunzel type extension - the length was about pre-BC length. A workmate had the unmitigated gall to intimate that the braids looked better than my "bush" I was offended and about to tell her off - then I decided to take a deep breath and remind myself that I have been "fearfully and wonderfully made" If my bush is good enough for the Almighty - it's good enough for me!

    I showed up for work today proudly wearing my "bush" - and there's this guy mourning the loss of the braid extensions! You'd swear his firstborn son died or something! I would normally have been very angry - but it was actually quite sad to witness his discomfort with God-given natural beauty!

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    I have locs and I've heard comments like Buckwheat, Scarecrow and others. The sad part about it is that the comments were made by African-Americans. How sad is that?
    This is so true. I think that black people overestimate the discrimination that nappies face from white people. I tried to tell two permies that most of the negativity comes from black people, not white people. A guy that was standing there told me that white people who compliment me are more than likely being condenscending. I explained to him that I KNOW the difference between a true compliment and a put down and left it at that.

    I mean, it's like the greatest lie ever told. Black people have the biggest problem with nappies, PERIOD. They internalize hate for themselves (that began due to whites) and try to cast it out on blacks (black women especially) who ar not afraid to be themselves. I am not saying that there are NO white people that look negatively at blacks with natural hair (that is a definite lie). I just think that the whole excuse of "the-white man-won't-let-me-wear-my-hair-the-way-it-naturally-is" is a played out point of view.

    I mean, why get mad at me because you have scabs on your scalp and I can see through your hair?

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    I got twists for the first time and everyone loved them, especially white folks. I did have one black lady tell me they look like worms....

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