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    One of my co-workers came up to me and told me that i am too pretty to be natural. At first i got offended but then i thought that the thing i like most about my hair is all the possibilities once it grows. i know right now my twa is not kickin with my face shape but she made me feel like i should just keep it under wraps (head wraps or hats) until it gets longer. Thank God i am not that insecure and just snapped out it but has anyone else heard comments like this? and if so how did you handle it?

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    I have heard stupid comments like that before but I just ignore them. Natural hair is what God blessed you with, how can it not look beautiful? Don't hide your TWA...flaunt it and show everyone how beautiful you are.

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    Yeah, I heard this SEVERAL times before I did the BC. I was also told that I was too classy, professional, and feminine to be natural. All of that is BS. I am the same beautiful, professional, classy, and feminine woman that I was when I had a perm (I'd venture to say that I'm even more of those things) What's funny is once I did BC, those same people were telling me how the short natural ENHANCED my beauty. People are ignorant and their opinions don't matter. God created you just how HE wanted you to be. Unfortunately, we live in a society that programs us to believe that long, straight hair is beautiful. It really is a shame that people don't realize just how programmed they are.

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    I got a similar comment from an older lady that I work with...she said "I coulda killed you when you cut all your hair off your head, but it's not too bad because you got a pretty face...you can carry it off"

    What you say in response is up to you..I said nothing in this case because I knew it wold be a waste of energy...There was no way I was selling this old creole woman on natural hair.

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    when your hair gets longer, the same people who are making comments now are going to be like "OHHH your hair is so pretty"

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    the same people who are making comments now are...

    Uh huh. Those "good hair" comments always follow.

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    I did my transition on the low...didn't tell anyone because i was not going to waste my energy on otherz...i had my mind made up. i wore braids for 6 months, took those last braids out and CHOP! got rid of that permed crap. what craps me up is how people were actin like i grew the afro overnite. overall though...people like my new look. i had some ignorant responses on my site at black planet.com but overall...folkz like it. i like my minifro...i may keep it short, who knowz. all i know is that i will never go back 2 that chemical mess i once had. yay! love your hair regardless of how short and show it off...i sure am.

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    when your hair gets longer, the same people who...

    Right! I think people assume that natural automatically means short and nappy forever (not that there's anything wrong with that).....cuz you know "we can't grow hair" and all. Then, when we sport our TWAs with pride, and people realize that we look good anyway. Then....we grow our hair down to our shoulders and we are ON and POPPIN with our "good hair" lol.

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    what amazes me is i am sure the woman who said this probably wore a fro back in the day. people use to be so proud of themselves when did the school of thought change back to hide your true self. i mean i thought black power was more than a style of dress or a fad. what happen?

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    Yeah, you would have someone assume. I just keep sporting my afro puff. I love the way it feels.

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    I haven't been told anything like that yet, but I know the mentality. I guess ignorance must really be bliss!!
    Either way, I will never go back! I love my hair, and if it's the way it naturally grow out of my head, how can it be wrong!?! People have it so backwards!

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    I know one time i walked into the bank and this woman who had not seen me in a year goes"what happened to that lovely long hair?" ....by the way she also is natural but she hides hers uder braids...i'm thinking to myself, 'i thought she'd be happy for me that I am nappy now, if she isn't , why then is SHE nappy?!' anyways I just

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    Oh Lawd!! People need to THINK before they come out of thier mouth with RUDE ignorant comments. ops:

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    Yeah i get that comment too. My "attackers" are even worse! They run their fingers through my hair and say "why'd you cut all that pretty hair! and blah blah blah!!!" ops: ops: I guess people think just because your hair is natural you didn't style it in the morning and they can rub their grubby little fingers through it. UUUUGGGGRRRHHHHH! makes me want to bite their hands off!

    Little do they know all that "pretty hair" they refer to was just as natural and nappy just longer ;-) . I think people really just have a problem with short natural hair.

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    My grandmother used to say "Your too pretty to be natural" all of the time.

    Then when I cut my hair she said "You know your hair is too short to be wearin it like that"

    Then when I grew out my hair she said "You know your hair is getting too long for that foolishness"

    Then when I wore twists she said "Oh lord help her - She done went and got some worms put in her head"

    Don't worry girl, after a while the people who are close to you will run out of things to say about your hairs.

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    My grandmother used to say "Your too pretty to...

    The other day my granny told me I was "too pretty to have nappy hair". (BTW granny is a strong christain). I told her "then God didn't mean for me to be pretty, because this is the hair he gave me". My grand father started laughing so hard and told my granny, "That the style now, that's how these young business women on the news are wearing their hair". I was thinking "Thanks papa!" and at the same time "how does an 80 yr old man know what's ion stlye!!!!"

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    what amazes me is i am sure the woman who...

    Not to sound like a history teacher or anything but this division has really always existed even through the Black Power Movement. There were still women then that wouldnt dare rock a BAA. One of my professors was telling us that his mother made him cut his afro off because she didnt want him to become a target. After the movement was broken down by the FBI some folks decided to straighten and then relax and then later jheri curl.

    Now the main comment I always hear is "why did you cut your hair? I couldn't do it" I think I've heard that one too many times!

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    One of my co-workers came up to me and...

    You should have hold her that you were too pretty not to be.

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    You should have hold her that you were too...

    Exactly!

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    (box (box :d)

    I have locs and I've heard comments like Buckwheat, Scarecrow and others. The sad part about it is that the comments were made by African-Americans. How sad is that?

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    Some people are just crazy. I've heard all types of strange things about my natural hair. "Oh you can do that because of this or that......." Its just silly. I've heard the worst comments from my mother, who still thinks that I'm going through a nappy faze.... (((sigh))) oh well.

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    Well for someone who has always been natural...I feel blessed to not have experienced this. However, I have heard stupid comments like "Do you good hair under there (talking about my hijab?" Or "I see your sideburns, you must have good hair." And I always comment the same way..."that good hair talk is foolishness, all hair is good." But they never get it anyway. Thank goodness for the hijab...now all the fools can wonder in mystery.

    On a side not, a Pakistini woman and I were speaking at an event. And she asked if I would let her see my hair. Well, I had a picture of me with my hair uncovered from home, and I let her see and she thought it was absolutely gorgeous. She commented that with hair like mine, she would never want to cover it. So ladies, among the "stupid comments"...some people really make beautiful ones.

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    Wow!! This brings back some memories, when I first went natural and cut it into a twa (which I felt really wasn't for me, because I'm used to myself in long hair), but the most ignorance I got was from Black men. They ALWAYS gave me some of the most back-handed compliments like, "You know I don't like no woman with short hair, but yours really looks good", or "I used to think all women with short hair were lesbians, but I can tell you ain't no lesbian"! and other ignorant comments.

    I'm also very very ashamed to admit that LOTS of friends told me in grave seriousness that "OK..................we understand you've decided for whatever reason to make this move..........but be prepared for people to question your sexuality, plus you might start getting hit on from the same team!!" So this scared the $%^$ out of me, so I went out and bought a boatload of cute earrings and scarves and all summer long made sure I wore black strappy high-heeled sandals and skirts every day!!!

    Now if that's not insecurity I don't know what is!!! I was seriously scared!! So my insecurity was never in the curls/naps/coils - I loved my hair - my insecurity was in having it so short - but I did get a few real compliments too from people who said I could get away with it. But I must admit, the hair I'm most comfortable in and feel like "me" in, is long to very long nappy/curly/coily/puffy/Fro hair! That's my look - much like Kelis but mine is kinkier/puffier/nappier than hers!

    So, congrats to all the twa's, I see many that it's gorgeous on - but I'm going to transition this time and Big Chop when I have at least 5 inches - at least enough that I can put back in a nice low puff!

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    Ladies, for me it's not what they say but how they look at me. Women with relaxed hair now look at me as if I'm from another planet. I've only had one person say that they couldn't believe I cut my "long" hair, but mostly it's the strange looks, especially from white folks. They don't know what to say! But it doesn't matter. I'm happy and that's all that matetrs

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    All the nasty comments I have had seem to come from older black women. They seem to have a massive problem with how I wear my hair. Nobody else is interested.

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    I got a similar comment from an older lady...

    OMG! I cant tell you how much that burns me up!

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    Why cant they just say it looks nice? They just HAVE to say something negative.

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    Ignore them.

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    I've had that said to me, but I respond with "what's wrong with growing MY natural hair?" People cannot seem to understand, especially my parents but I counter them with "well it was you that made my hair this way-so why are you embarassed?" That stumps them!!!

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    MIMIDETTE THAT WAS THE BEST COME BACK SO FAR!!!

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