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    No not that first time you bunch of filthy mc-nasties

    I mean the first time I wore my natural hair "out". I had been wearing twist extensions for going on three months. I was researching naturality during all that time and had bouught a gazillion products in anticipation of this very important day. I washed my hair with creme of nature shampoo. I deep conditioned with cholesterol and when I was done I added sta-sof-fro and Salon Slectives' Loosley Defined. Can I tell you my hair was hard as a ROCK!! I was expecting all these cork screw curls that were non existant and my hair was dry and rough! Hello? What did I expect after wearing twists for 3 months and not deep conditioning in between. Boy did I have a LOT to learn.

    Anywho's I was on my way to church for the big unveiling. Boy was I scared I stayed outside the church for about half an hour toying with the idea pf just going back home and wrapping up my hair. Finally my friend made me go inside. ALL EYES ON Me I was so nervous. Gosh looking back I laugh now.

    SO DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT IT WAS LIKE FOR YOU YOUR VERY FIRST TIME?

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    My first time to wear my hair free and natural turned out good...I had a twistout, and I had this big chunky hair....I felt so good! And got compliments....phew! It can be discouraging if ità‚´s the first time you are going out with your natural hair and you get negativity, so I was pleased with the day...

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    Man, my first time was horrible

    So I was at practice and only a few of the Girls and Guys on the team had seen my twa. I am what u call a hard a $ and everyone wanted to see what it looked like and the answer was always no. So, this guy that wasn't on my "friends list" had been bugging me all month to take my scarf off. I guess my smart mouth got on his last nerve.

    He pulled my scarf off during our warm up lap. I was shocked. I felt like someone had just pulled my wig off and my big secret was out. Let me tell you, it was on!

    After that I had no other option but to do my hair and show it off. And when I did all I got was endless complements .

    Now as I look back, it's like why was I so scared to show my hair off. It was the most beautiful thing about me. I LUV NATURAL ME

    nuLuv :-)

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    My very first time wearing my hair out was the day after my BC. The previous night I took down a weave ponytail I was wearing and washed my hair. I was checking my new growth in the mirror and I just couldn't wait to be free. I had already bought some hair scissors and some natural hair products so I said "What the heck...why not cut it off." I remember the date: May 28, 2003. I started cutting in the front so I could not change my mind and stop. When I finished, I had 1/2" to 1" of nappy hair. I washed my hair again to get rid of the clippings and conditioned with Suave Coconut conditioner. I moisturized with ORS Shea Butter Lotion. I was afraid to come out of the bathroom because I knew my mom would have a fit! So, I sat on the toilet and read some magazines. My legs were going to sleep from sitting on the toilet so long...LOL. I finally got up and opened the door I walked into my mom's room and she didn't notice my hair. So, I cut on the light and started looking in the mirror and she shouted, "Girl, you cut it off!" I was like, "Yeah, told you I was gonna do it."

    The next day I went to work and boy did I get a lot of interesting comments! From "It certainly looks cool," to "Girl, what you do to your hair!" Ironically, I wasn't afraid to go to work, I was just afraid of my mom's reaction.

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    I had worn my hair in extensions for 3 years and I was sick and tired of it. So I had made an appointment to get my hair twisted because I didn't know how to style my natural hair. Every time I took the braids out before I would rush to get it pressed. So I went to the hair dresser and she put my hair in two strand twists. I didn't like it at all. I thought that my hair would have been to my shoulders and that was not the case at all. I didn't know about shrinkage and my twists were tiny and thin from damage from the braids. I remember I had went to the supermarket and I saw a woman with twists in I thought her hair looked so beautiful and mine was so ugly. It was during the winter so I could get away with wearing hats and eventually I had learned to accept my hair and then finally love it. It was definitely a learning experience. So needless to say that my first time wasn't great but I learned alot from it.

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    I went to the barber and cut off a foot of relaxed hair. I walked out the salon feeling 'breezy'. I had no qualms and got compliments on my hair...all I kept thinking was "I don't have any hair" :-?

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    I wore my hair out for the first time the day after I had the big chop. I transitioned for 6 and 1/2 months with kinky twist extentions. I was paranoid and self-concious. I thought everyone was staring at me. Looking back I realize that nobody really cared about my hair. I like it when people stare at it now, I think they're either admiring it or are simply curious. If they don't like it, I really don't care!

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    Hmmm....the very first time. It felt a little awkward at first, but once I started getting positive feedback, it was all worthwhile. And while people's opinions don't faze me that much, I think they did play a factor in my not running back to get my hair braided with extensions.

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    Man my first time was at my graduation for my job. We had been in training for like 3 or 4 mos and previously I had a texturizer because a friend of mine told me that's how you got curly hair. , didn't like cut it off and started getting braids to grow it out. Everyone was wearing the microbraids and cornrows so I was too. Thought I was too cute, did this straight for all the mos we were in training and then the night before our big graduation I got this epiphany. I was like, you know what? I am tired of wearing these braids, in fact I'm tired of hiding behind these braids. I'm finna cut em... So that's what I did. Underneath was this cute, nappy, curly afro, so I didn't know what to do, so I got some of my boyfriends Wave Keeper, picked it out, threw on a scarf for a headband, put my earrings on and went on to the graduation. I was scared and defiant at the same time. I looked at myself and I was like dang I look cute I like it, it's different. But if anybody gives me any stuff it's on!! Got to graduation and everybody was like OH YOU CUT YOUR HAIR?!?!?!...... I like it, it's so pretty!! THe rest was history adn I never looked back since. That's when I knew I was going natural or better yet I WAS natural and would stay that way!(didn't know it before that moment) :-)

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    I cut about 3 inches of pitiful relaxed ends off and wore twists for a couple of weeks. At the end of the two weeks, I went to a wedding! I cut my hair to wear my twa to that wedding. Inwardly, I was a little nervous because I was going to be with my SO's family and they had only seen me with "all that hair." But they are also, naplovers, so we had a ball! I received a lot of compliments that day.

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    my first time was aug 30 2001. i did the big chop and walked out of the salon feeling the wind on my head with maybe 1-1.5" of naps. i felt that i looked like a dude but i got a compliment from a man as soon as i walked out. my mom loved it, my friends said it was different and my man hated it. i was not comfortable with my hair that short but started to like it once i could wear twists and fros. i am still trying to learn to accept myself the way that i am. it certainly is a journey.

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    My first time was after the BC, when I had about one inch of hair. My first response when I saw myself in the mirror was, with a huge grin, "I look like an African!" My hairdresser was like, "You ARE an African!" We laughed.
    I had a huge grin on my face all the way home in the car, and when I came into the house, my mother rushed up to me and hugged me, and just gushed about how great it was, and "Oh that's me! That's me!" (of course almost two years later, it's still not "her," but I'm working on it).
    When I came to New York two weeks later for grad school, at the check-in, this girl asked me for my naturalization paperwork! I was like, "I don't have that because I'm an American-born American citizen!" I guess I did look "African."

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    When I came out of my mother's womb and Dr. Mitchell commented that this baby (me) had a full head of hair and EYEBROWS. I remember it like it was yesterday . Well, I remember hearing it like was yesterday .

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    Yes. I too thought i would have some *curl pattern* i washed my hair and put gel and oils on it. My hair was like a dry oily sponge. I tied it back into a puff and refused to leave the house. I would only go to the gas station at night and would pay at the pump. Every time i heard some one laughing i would ASSume it was about my hair and my face would get hot!

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    I guess I am still a virgin. I have worn my hair in twists since it was long enough to twist.

    Does that still make me a virgin??

    I don't want to wear my hair out in public. DH sees the fro in between washing but my own mother has never seen my natural hair in anything but twists for the last 4 years. I have pictures in my album of my washed hair out but I don't go outside with my hair out.

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    My first time my hair was in coils in a twa. I was nervous and everyone knew it. I got cool responses from people off the street but my family freaked. It was in Feb and it was freezing, I had no hat and I felt every breeze. I do remember my husband asking me to put my hat on, I didn't cuz I felt so good leaving that salon. That was the first time my hair has ever been that short, I was beaming.

    Be Peace

    Queen Amina

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    The first time that I wore my hair out was to my university's library at about 1am. I wa very nervous about the reactions that I would get. I saw a friend of mine and he jst kept commenting on how much he liked it. I know that people preach that you shouldn't care about others opinions or need anyone to boost your self confidence but I needed it my first time. Overall I had a positive experience.

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    My first time wearing my hair out was not the greatest experience. I had just gotten it cut and had about 1.5-2 inches of hair. No one liked it. Everyone that I know is used to me with long, thick, relaxed hair, so no one I encountered liked it. Unfortunately, that drove me to get it braided up because my self esteem was shot to the ground. I'm already tall, so I felt I looked like a man. I got it twisted and that just made me look like Arseneo Hall. Anyway, that was about a month ago and the braids are coming out Friday. Hopefully I will feel better about showing my TWA the second time around. I pray about this often, because I have no intentions whatsoever of ever getting a relaxer again, but I do not want to hide behind braids for too long.

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    yeah i remember i had just got it cut at the barbers cause i knew once i got in the chair i couldnt change my mind..anyhoo my friend had a baby shower that night and i planned on going. after i got my hair cut i jumped in my car and ran home to wash it to activate my curls i walked into the baby shower like everything was normal and then one friend noticed and then all the screaming started. alot of shock but mostly everybody was supportive tons of hands in my hair. but i havent shown my family yet so i guess i have another first time to look forward too

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    I wore mine out about 3 days after the BC while on vacation in the Bahamas. I had the curls/coils, but still some straight ends sparingly around my hair. This was 2 years ago and I look back at the picture and see how ridiculous it looked, lol. About two weeks after the BC, I got twist extensions for 5 weeks.

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    my first time going straight up completely natural was my first BC in college. i had been telling folks i was gunna do it but they were like NOOOOOO!!! don't do that, your relaxed hair is o puurty!

    So one day i went home and made my roommate cut my hair. he had been refusing for about 2 weeks saying that he wasn't gunna cut it and then i start crying about what he did to me. But my mind was made up. So he cut it and i showed up in the student center the next day like nothing had happned. i told myself that i was doing this for myself and no one else.

    Man, i must have felt like a celebrity!! Folks were giving me mad complements. i was so happy, it just helped confirm my decision. The guys surprised me the most cuz they gave the most flattering complements. The nervousness dissapated quickly...

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    I guess I am still a virgin. I have...

    I meant when you wore your hair natural (meaning no perm) for the very first time in public. Not "out" as in a style

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    I don't want to wear my hair out in public. DH sees the fro in between washing but my own mother has never seen my natural hair in anything but twists for the last 4 years. I have pictures in my album of my washed hair out but I don't go outside with my hair out.
    Gurl i remember lookin at your ablum like wow if my fro could look like that long and thick. I cant believe you have never worn a fro when you are my fro idol.

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    Well my 1st time was because my boss's b-day was coming and she said we had some big wigs coming from our corp. office so we need to look especially nice and profession that day. i was transitioning with a headwrap and decided this was my chance to do my BC Well that morning i called a friend of mine and he agreed to do it. I went to his house and when he saw my hair he was like..."but its so long. i dont know about this." and i was like "Are you gonna do this or am i." Well, needless to say i ended up with a frizzy mess and had to face my boss and all of corporate america with a fro with permed ends. Luckily most of my co-worker had never seen my hair and just treated me like it was halloween and i had on an Angela Davis costum. On my lunch break i had to pick up my husband from is job and i was just glad that we didn't have a doom light in our car for him to get the whole view. That night after work we all went to out to dinner to celebrate my bosses b-day and everyone just keep staring at me :-P while my husband refuse to look at me

    If i had to do BC all over again i would but i would have chose to unveil it at another time.

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    When i did my big chop, it was time for a touch up and i just up and cut it off. I thought i looked funny at first but it grew on me since i was in my dorm room. I couldnt walk out the door without wrapping up my hair . I felt even more self conscious the closer i got to the door. Ironically, my scarf wasnt tied tight enough and the wind blew it off and everyone stopped and stared. Forutnately, i didnt recieve a bunch of negative comments just "where did your hair go". Afterwards I felt alot better about my hair.

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    It was cool, I just went to the salon and had it all chopped off to about a half inch. No biggie to me. I got compliments and that was about it. I didnt meet any apprehension from others until I stated gaining lenght. But still, who cares about them?

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    The first time I wore my natural hair out was the day after my BC, when I had to return to work. I was kind of nervous, but I KNEW I looked good *g* and I was feeling right proud of myself. I guess I wasn't the only one who liked my new twa. Co-workers kept complimenting me on my new look for about a week afterward. :-)

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    When I first came out wearing my natural style, it was to a student org meeting. I had previously been wearing braids, and the night before as my sweetums was helping me take them out, he pointed out that I should just cut my hair one time. So I followed his advice. I was kind a scared to go out the next day without braids. Well at the meeting I don't think anyone really paid attention to what I was saying. They were more interested in knowing what made me cut my hair and the sort (nothing negative, just genuine curiosity).

    What made this experience special (even though my ends were still crunchy feeling, I needed some more cutting, and my puff was flat on several sides ) was the fact that my sweetums (bless his heart) came to my meeting to show support for me wearing my hair natural (he wasn't a member of the club). Ohhh I love him so!!!

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    After transitioning for nearly one year, what was the 1st thing I had to do.......get some twists, by whom? A loctician from HELL! :-cre She refused to cut my permed ends & put so much pomade in my hair that:

    1) I looked like I had electrical wires coming out my head
    2) I had enough pomade grease to use in all the cooking pots at home
    3) After purchasing a big ol' hat & 5 shampoos later, my natural hair was a hot mess.

    I made my dad do the BC and the comb, his hand and all got stuck to the hair (darn sticky pomade). So I wore a 3" afro w/ a pretty red scarf to school and my track & field team mates and coaches (all black) looked at me like WTF did she do to her hair?

    Low and behold, the guys liked it and few days later, they were showing up to practices w/ fros, and soon to be fros. I started a revolution on the team (among the guys at least) lol!

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