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    So I've been burned so many times by lending stuff out to people that I stopped doing by the time I reached 30. I'm not talking about $$ but I mean books, CD's, etc.

    The only way I'll lend it to someone is if I don't care about getting it back because odds are I won't.

    So i decided to make an exception at my job. I had bought a new Astrud Gilberto CD that I played at my desk. I had it a week. One of my coworkers heard and was like cool cd can I take it home and make a copy (on a Friday). I said sure.. I didnt get my damn CD back until 4 months later!! and that was only because I was bugging him everyday about it :Angry:

    So fast forward to monday. I bought the Firefly boxed set and now another coworker keeps bugging me about borrowing them. What he actually said was "After you watch those I want to borrow them". Um excuse me but dont people usually buy DVD's so they can watch and rewatch them and rewatch them? Is there ever a point when someone is finished watching DVD's they own???

    This guy has 2 kids so the way I see it that triples the chances of me either not getting my ish back or getting it back broken or not seeing it for a year. So I said no but told him amazon had it a great price.

    anyone else refuse to lend stuff to people? i can't be the only b**ch

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    i've gotten burned in the past. do not lend your things to people. plus, i am not a borrower.

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    That is the one of the worst parts about me, I can be TOO nice. Especially lending out stuff to people. One thing I regret is lending out my Michael Jackson Bad CD. Never again, cuz I NEVER got it back. I think it depends on who the person is also, there are just some people who I know NEVER to lend things to. But if its my closest friends and fam who I can trust, then it doesnt really matter.

    One thing that kills me about lending things are when you lend things out to people, they take forever to give it back to you or they dont at all. But when YOU borrow something from them, they have the nerve to bother you ALL the time about getting it back. <_<

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    I rarely let folks borrow my stuff because most people aren't as particular about caring for things as I am. I have a friend that is the same size as me and she would always borrow my clothes when we were in college. I was uncomfortable with this because she is somewhat of a messy person and doesn't take care of her things. Once she begged to borrow a dress of mine and I reluctantly agreed. After she wore it, every time I asked to get it back she promised to do so after she got it dry cleaned. Days passed and finally I went to her room to look for it myself. Why did I find my dress balled up in a corner of her closet with a bunch of other clothes? :Angry: That was the last time I ever let her borrow anything from me.

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    You are not the only one....

    I lent a book out to find the cover torn due to her "cat"

    I lent out one of my favorite tapes in highschool (it was tapes back then) and he gave it back to me weeks later and it wasn't even in the case. It took me another 2 weeks for him to find and return the case <_<

    I lent out another bit of my favorite music (Pharcyde's first album Bizarre Ride II) to a homeboy in college. He lost it and I ended up having to repurchase. He atleast gave me a bunch of free music to make up for it.

    I can go on and on.....

    If I care about it, there's a chance I might be salty over if if it is lost, missing or damaged so I tend to not lend it out and instead offer to do any copying or burning myself. I also offer to come over and watch my DVD with them (may not work for people you don't wanna hang with like that).

    I say don't feel bad at all. If you have been burned, I think it's a right we have to preserve our belongings

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    NOT ANYMORE!!

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    my worst story was lending a grateful dead album (yes ALBUM) to a friend in high school. I asked for it back and she said she sold it i had some anger issues at the time so i sort put her in a head lock and almost beat the stuffing out of her. i did get a new album though

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    I used to. Not anymore.

    It started with my Nikki Giovanni Racism 101 book and just went down hill. I started writing my name on everything - in big cursive script - on the front - with a black sharpie. You know in case I went over there saw my ish - the same ish I let someone borrow 6 months ago. It helped me to spot it or in case I forgot I lent it in the first place.

    You want to borrow now? "Sorry, I have a no lending policy. I'm sure you understand."

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    I have stopped !!!! I too was one of those nice people wanting to share the wealth and knowledge but some people just don't know how to return what don't belong to them. So now everyone has to pay.

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    I am not mad at you. I don't lend anything to anybody unless I really know you. Co-workers just don't cut it. I would have to know where you live and have previously been in your home. That way, when you don't give whatever it is back after 4 months, I coming to get my ish. And I know where you put it. Don't make me go looking for it either. I might find something of yours I want to steal, I mean uhhh "borrow" too.

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    I used to, but burned too many times and it hurts. So I lie. Yes, I'm a punk and coward, but instead of saying No I say, Oh I took it back to the store. I gave it to my sister in DC. It's not working. Oh I bought that for my mom. etc. _thinkerg: Maybe I should just be honest and tell them I prefer not to lend out my belongings. And leave it at that, not even give a reason why. :P

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    i'm gunna stop lending stuff to my own best friend. its a doggone shame though. he'll lie about something until i discover the truth myself.

    the ONLY thing we never have beef about it money. we'll cover each other or give each other money in a heart beat and dont keep tabs of who owes who cuz we do it so much from the heart

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    I lend nothing cause I usually lose friends..cause I will hound you.

    I borrow nothing..cause I don't have money to replace anything.

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    I'm STILL mad about the Tori Amos and Mary J. Blige CDs I loaned out in high school and never got back. :Angry:

    But no, I don't loan out my stuff anymore. I take that back - I'll loan books to my roommates, because they're literally a few feet away and I always know where to find them. And I have one friend whom I'd have no problem lending things to (sometimes we borrow shirts or shoes from each other), because we always return the items clean and in a timely manner. But anyone else? Nope.

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    It depends on the person and depends on the item. Certain people know not to ask.

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    I just lent someone my pencil and I didn't get it back! :Angry: But no, that's the only pencil I had.

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    I lends out NOTHING to anyone, with exception of close friends and family, and I know I may or may not ever get it back, like plates or Tupperware.

    Some folks get to acting like like Felicia on Friday, asking to borrow your VCR, car and stuff! I would NEVER lend anything to a co-worker. NO WAY!!!

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    Quote:I'm STILL mad about the Tori Amos and Mary...

    ok!

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    I never was a person to lend things out much. When I did, best believe if I didn't get it back in a timely fashion I was in their homes looking for my stuff and taking theirs. Then, I would return it when I wanted to and see how they liked it. That resulted in me never being asked for stuff which was fine by me.

    Q

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    Quote:I just lent someone my pencil and I didn't get...

    Ok NO see I just can't handle stuff like that for some reason. When it comes to lending people my pens and pencils and white out I will fully breathe over their necks while they're writing until I get it back if I have to. I'm very protective of stuff like that and I really don't know why. And don't you eva in yo life think you can get away with taking my good white out oh no sireee bob. It ain't happnin' Yeah i'm a crack azz about certain stuff but whatevs

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    It all depends on who is doing the borrowing. I really don't like to lend things out because I usually have to bug the shyte out of folks to get my "stuff, " back!!!

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    depends on who the recipient is.

    after our first baby was born, we had an ice storm and the power was out all over the city. our next door neighbors (whom were only just more than acquaintances at the time) had a generator and their whole house was lit up on our dark street. they pulled their generator between our houses so that we could hook up part of our house to it and have heat for our baby. that was one of the most selfless acts anyone had done for us.

    so in the future when their lawnmower was broken and they'd ask to use ours, we wouldn't hesitate to share it with them.

    our neighbor on the other side of us uses our mower and other lawncare things from time to time. she lives alone and tries to keep her property up by herself. we don't mind lending those things to her. when we are out of town and forget to cancel our paper, she collects them and puts them in obscure places so that it won't be obvious that we aren't home.

    my bro-in-law? hayell naw! he's a liar and thief and we'd never see our stuff again unless we ventured to area pawn shops! <_<

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    I only lend stuff to my mother and bf, because I know I can easily go over they spot and get it myself if I really wanted it.

    For everyone else, it's no, or I am giving it to them. I dunno if I come off as mean, but people rarely ask me to borrow stuff.

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    I've had so many bad experiences with lending things to people that I rarely lend my stuff out to individuals. I have severe trust issues when it comes to things like that, especially if it comes down to some things that are hard to replace.

    Peace,
    Rasta

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    Never again. I loaned my digital camera out to someone and never got it back. When I requested it back several weeks afterwards and I got the face like "what digital camera?" Oh I see how it is <_< She insisted that she'd returned it, and expected me to fall for her earnestness, as though I could have forgotten getting my camera back Well, a few months later, I was in her room and I needed a pen. She directed me to look in a certain drawer apparently forgetting that that's where she hid my broken camera :Angry: :Angry: :Angry: Even after all that she still tried to play like she did nothing worng b**** please. I demanded a replacement. It's been over a year and still no camera. I casually brought it up a few weeks ago and this crazy harlot had the nerve to get pissed. At me. So no, never again.

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    Yes I lend stuff out all the time -- the key is to lend whatever you are willing to lose graciously. If it's something that you could give two shyts about without getting it back - good. If it's something you're tied to like Britney Spears to her extensions -bad.

    The same applies to lending money. Only lend someone as much money as you're willing to lose if they can't afford to pay you back easily. Other than that -- lock your pocketbook and be thankful you didnt have it to lend in the first place. No need to lose a good friend over money. -- Tryce

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    Growing up, my mom did not allow us to lend our clothes or other stuff like that to other kids. She also didn't allow us to borrow stuff like that. As an adult, I still don't like to do it either way.

    I also don't believe in lending (or asking to borrow) things like other people's cars. I have NEVER understood how anyone could ask to borrow your car. We don't even do that between sibblings in our own family. Cell phones are another thing. I don't care who you are...why would let someone borrow your cell phone?

    Other smaller stuff, I'm also not a fan of lending or borrowing...especially if we're merely accquaintences.

    I'm a big believer however, if you do borrow something, it should come back to you in the same condition that you gave it in.

    For instance, when I was in college, my best friend let me borrow her Al Jereau album. I loved that album. Played it all the time. The words were on the inner dust cover. I fingered that thing so badly that by the time I was ready to give it back to her, it was really worn out looking. So I purchased a brand new album and gave that to her and kept the one that I had dogged out so badly. She said "You didn't have to do that." But yes I did. It was like new when I borrowed it so it should be in the same condition when I give it back.

    Once a friend of mine borrowed a book from me. It was brand new. When I got it back it looked like it had been run over by a dang truck. I told she need to buy me a new one. She did but she wasn't happy about it.

    Oh well. Too bad so sad. <_<

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    Nope. I'm neurotically protective over my belongings. The only thing I "lend" right about now are books to my mom after I am done reading them.

    As for money...with close friends I will, because I know they will keep their word and pay me back. At the same time, I am the type of friend that doesn't necessarily expect it back, unless you insist. My philosophy is this: What is the point of waiting around to get $20 back? It is already out of your pocket...

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    I do. Sometimes I get burned, most times I don't because I'm very careful who I lend stuff to. The times I get burned are mostly at school. I really try to be helpful and generous and, in the spirit of "collaboration", I share. I spend a LOT of $$$ on stuff for my classroom and instruction. So other teachers always like to borrow my ish. Then they either keep it forever like it was a fricking gift :Angry: or lose it and then wanna come to me looking all sad and pathetic waiting for me to say "It's okay". It ain't okay, you careless ingrate! You better replace my ish. I don't have money to waste like that.

    With my friends, I lend out DVDs, books, CDs, etc. and they lend it to me when I ask, which is kind of rare. I am a giver, not a taker.

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    With my friends, I lend out DVDs, books, CDs, etc....

    Girl, you are a good one. I spend too much good money on my school supplies to let someone else dog that stuff out. I'm at a school where some teachers "float" into other classes. So whenever I am not in my room, or if I'm out for the day, I lock away what I don't want to mysteriously disappear or otherwise take it with me. I am paranoid! ROFL

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