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    So i'm riding the A train on friday and i over hear a convo by this young lady and her male friend. the topic of conversation is her late thursday night sex romp and how amazing it was. her friend admits his jealousy, stating "girl, he is sexy!"

    so then he asks her ..
    "so did you call your girlfriends up to tell them about your amazing night and the end of your drought?"

    to which she responded ..
    "oh hell nah, i'm not giving them anything to be curious about. he's mine."

    now, her response baffled me a bit.
    granted some things are better left unsaid and sometimes a level of privacy is desired by all parties involved. but to not tell your friends because you don't want them to be curious about your f*ck buddy/boyfriend/significant other is weird to me.

    why would you be friends with someone you don't trust?
    ladies, how much do you tell your girlfriends?
    and how much do you trust them?

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    1. why would you be friends with someone you don't trust?

    2. ladies, how much do you tell your girlfriends?

    3. how much do you trust them?

    1. I am not close friends with anyone I do not trust or do not get along with.

    2. As far as my sex life is concerned I do not talk about it with my closest friends because they are not sexually mature, do not feel comfortable discussing the topic, but not because I do not trust them. Some people are just not comfortable with TMI so I do not talk about anything that would make my friends uncomfortable.

    3. I trust my closest friends enough to tell them anything.

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    No I don't give them blow by blow info. But on the surface I might mention that I was very much satisfied.

    It's not that I don't trust my friends I am just private like that.

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    I don't like to talk about my sex life with my friends. In a way I feel like I'd be betraying my bond with my boyfriend. It's so personal. I mean, I'll talk about sex in general, but I don't like to talk in specifics about him.
    I really don't like to talk to my friends about my man much at all. I think it comes from my mom. When I used to have boyfriends in high school that I would say I hated and then get back together with, she said don't tell her ever again about a fight I have with a man. Cuz when I'm back with him she'll always remember what he did and she'll never like him again.

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    1. I only have 1 girlfriend and is has been for 15+ years.

    2. Enough to have a conversation about it. Not because I don't trust her but because you shouldn't kiss and tell. She is the same way and we have different taste in men. Sex ain't nuthin if the whole package ain't worth it.

    3. With my life (so to speak). She is my sister (not biologically) and my daughter's godmother. <--not something I take lightly.

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    I never understood that either. I have talked about my sex life with those that I considered to be a real friend and they have done the same. I think some people are just private, and probably wouldn't tell anyone, and then there are some women who seem to hate womankind. I have heard women say the worst things about women in general. "You can't trust a woman; they are sneaky and will try and take your man; I can't hang around women because they are catty, petty, gossipy; little girls are too rude and too fast, etc."

    I trust my girl friends, and should they do something in the future to delete that trust I will not attribute to gender.

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    why would you be friends with someone you don't trust?

    NO!!!

    ladies, how much do you tell your girlfriends?

    My close girlfriends know everything...One girlfriend and I did a comparison in the grocery store by holding up different sizes of bananas..

    and how much do you trust them?

    I totally trust my girls...For some reason (I don't know if this is something that happened on an unconscience level), we all have such different tastes in men. Two of my girls date white guys. One has a thing for rocker types, the other the seriously nerdy types. My other girlfriend prefers any guy not born in the U.S...(this counts my man out...). And my other girl prefers the athletic muscle bound type (ewww...)...

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    1. I personally am not telling anyone I do not consider a friend about my sex life....so bascially if I cant be open then their probably just an associate

    2. I tell my GIRLS EVERYTHING!!!!! Not a step by step unless its just a "CUT UP BUDDY" ( which is from my Ole days....I don't ummmm have cut up buddies anymore)but if its someone I'm dating they usually know by the extra "PEP" in my step...LOL

    3. I am a picky at who I call friends, and the ones I do...I have been through things with them, and would give them $2.50 if I had a dollar...I trust my girls with everything I HAVE...they are honest with me when no one else is....Oh How I love my closest friends.....

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    No! _headshake: I don't tell my friends everything. In th ewords of my grandmother" only a fool tells everything".

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    1. i'm not friends with anyone i don't trust. i've never understood that mess either.

    2. while i will have discussions about sex in general, and discuss in a vague way my level of satisfaction if the earth just moved in a particularly explosive way, i haven't been into sharing details since i got married. when i was single and we were all gurls just sowing our royal oats, it was more fun to be like, gurl, he did this and ooh, did you ever try that or whatever. once i got serious and settled down, all that went out the window in all but the most veiled, coy, satisfied-innuendo sort of way.

    i mean, although that cracked me up to read, we're not holding up bananas in the supermarket

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    i guess that's why i have female associates and not friends
    and my male friends don't want to hear that

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    NO............... _headshake:

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    I'm naturally very private. Some things do not need to be re-told. My business is just that, MY business...

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    My two close girlfriends and I talk openly about sex,...

    She's clearly doing herself a disservice by either:
    a) surrounding herself with untrustworthy people or
    b.) being distrustful and insecure

    My girls and I don't usually have the same taste in guys but if it does happen that we do I usually back off and let them go ahead. And I've certainly never had the urge to verify their sex stories about their men that is so distasteful.

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    I don't have one, so I can't discuss mine!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!

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    None of my male friends would have responded like that...

    oop, i forgot to mention that he was either gay or very feminine and supportive of gay rights cause his bag was cover with gay rights pins.

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    oop, i forgot to mention that he was either gay...

    makes more sense now

    Well then that may negate the whole thing, cuz I wouldn't have that conversation with a straight male friend but I would if I had a gay male friend with whom I was very close. He may be her closest confidant and replaces her girlfriends with whom she might not be as tight.

    Plus she gets the added security that her new flame, if he is not on the DL or bisexual is safe........

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    I would never be friends with someone I couldn't trust, plain and simple.

    There are certain friends I tell pretty much everything (when there's anything to tell, that is), and there's some that aren't mature enough to handle talking about sex, so they don't really get any info besides the fact that something went on...ya know?

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    I do not discuss my sex life with my friends because I lack a sex life and I am a private person

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    I don't discuss my sex life either. I haven't done that since I was ---- years old (IOW a LONG time ago). Intimacy to me means private. I'd be mortified, I mean MORTIFIED to know that a man was talking about what I did/do in bed.

    MORTIFIED.

    And I usually don't want to hear about other people's sex lives either. Talk about TMI.

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    the 3 women that i consider my friends i also consider my sisters. we've known each other since we were 14 and 15, went to college together (2 of the 3), and are still close friends. i love them. i share what's necessary to be shared--not just gratuitous stuff. we laugh, cackle, of course some things are between my husband and myself, but big questions or concerns i have about sex (if i'm ready to talk about them) i'm open to talking to them.

    my momma always said that with true friends, you can live across the country and not skip a beat. i love them and trust them with all i have.

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    I don't have a sex life right now but I do have ones friend, my best friend, who I always tell about my sex life. I mean we wouldn't hit on each other's dudes but we have totally different tastes in men anyway. I totally trust her. There's another friend I have who I would also tell about my sex life and who I usually do share at least some details. That is when we get a chance to talk (we're always missing each other ). So yeah I have two friends who I share anything with, including my sex life. Other than that, no one. No one finds out about my sex life.

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    we were all sittin around one day and I mentioned something that I enjoy sexually and all I got was so I just shut right on up! :P

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    I don't discuss my sex life either. I haven't done...

    ITA I'm not telling you about mine and I certainly don't want to hear about yours.

    My mother and aunts always told me, "Never tell your girlfriends about your sex life. Some may want to find out if what you're saying is true."

    I've seen this happen to women who just could not keep their mouth closed when it came to their bed room business. _headshake:

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    I am a naturally open person, so in the past my sex life was something that I would openly discuss with my close friends. However, that recently came and bit me in the butt. Now I am very limited on people I trust and the things I say in general because you never know peoples true motives.

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    That's not up for discussion. The only person I'd be telling...is my husband. That's it, b/c it only concerns he and I.

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    So i'm riding the A train on friday and i...

    I have never discussed my sex life with my friends because I just think it's uncouth, not because I don't trust them. It just makes no sense to me, what's the point in sharing? It's not like they NEED to have that information or anything, so what's the point? To me, the fact that this is so common (the discussion, the "partner" sharing/swapping, etc.) continues to assert the fact sex is seen as someting much less spiritual and personal than God ever intended for it to be.

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    I don't discuss my sex life either. I haven't done...

    Exactly!

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    I have to agree with some of the ladies...my reasoning is that most of my life I have hung with guys...I had a few female friends, but none that I trusted completely...i have seen too many females be friends for years and years and then the "ultimate" happens...my very best friend lives over 4hours away from me, we know almost everything about eachother so there is really no need to discuss details.

    If it is not her, then they are merely associates and i don't trust my business with them. Plus, my mother always told me to never give details about your SO because curiosity will always win in the end.

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    I don't discuss my sex life with my girlfriends. I wouldn't want my husband to discuss ours with his friends. I did do it when I was younger though. It doesn't have anything to do with trusting my girlfriends, it has to do with the trust between a husband and wife.

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