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    Hi there!

    Welcome to hairtipsforme!

    Please introduce yourself to the community, we'd love to hear your story. Tell us about you, your hair and how you found the site.

    Thanks and enjoy your stay!

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    A continuation from Part III?

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    Hello All my name is Nya. I have been fully natural for about 5 months now. My last perm was on December 6,2003. I initially stopped relaxing my hair because it was falling out at the root in handfuls. I blamed it mostly on the relaxer but I found out later it was becaused I was extremely stressed out. I decided to take a break and get braid extensions.... kept those for about 3 months and when I took them out I decided I wanted to grow my perm out because a girlfriend of mine who had stopped perming her hair and decided to start pressing her hair had grown her hair past her bra strap. She had first started growing out her hair because she was inspired by an aunatural sister we went to school with in New Orleans from the Virgin Islands. This girls hair was B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L. But because my friend's, who pressess her hair, natural hair didn't turn out like the girl from college then she decided to press it. I wish she would have known about this site when she strated growing out her hair 5 years ago because her natural hair would have been gorgeous too.

    When I first came out of my braids I decided to go get my hair pressed and I HATED it. Also inspired by our friend from college I decided to go all natural. That is what landed me here this site (GOOGLED natural hair care). I have learned SOOOO much and I don't know how my journey would have been without this site. This is where I learned about protective styling which has helped me tremendously. Thinking about it... my friend actually had her hair in box braids 98% of the time. She would take them down every now and then and when she did..... WHOAAAA I wish I had a picture! I went through a lot of emotional and psychological growth during this period and I am so happy I made this choice. Now I can truely say I love my hair and I love myself.

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    pick me, pick me,
    okay I went natural in December, 2000. I cut all my hair off because i wanted something that was low maintenance. As i grew my hair out I would get increasingly frustrated with it and every time I wanted to slap the perm on my hair, my sister would say nooooooooooo. I don't know why though. she also went natural at that time. So anyway, here i was natural and then a friend went natural as well and introduced me to this site now I am hooked on natural hair and this site. From this site I was able to learn why it was important for me to love my hair and stay natural. I am glad I found naturality.

    *Hugging my computer tightly***

    Now I want to loc my hair and then I am going to do the big chop again and then who knows.. with natural hair the possibilities are endless

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    Hi,
    My name is Yolanda and I am currently transitioning the name of this site kept coming up in conversation and everytime I looked at someone's album so I figured I'd join. I made the decision in Feb. not to relax again and the hair type is nappy/nappy I guess. Im in Hawaii about to move back to Ga.

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    Hi everyone,
    Before I started my natural journey, I constanly keep my hair microbraided. I would keep my braids in for 4-6 weeks, take them down to get a perm and put them back in about two weeks later. And that was my cycle for a long time. My last perm was around May/June 2004 and two weeks later I had braids again. Well, I took my braids down after a month, but did not perm my hair and when I took my braids down for the last time, my hair had started to loc. I was so upset because I spent about 2-1/2 hours trying to detangle my hair. When I finished, it looked as if I pulled out half of my hair. I knew I did not want to go through that again and that day I decided to go natural.

    I transitioned using ponytails for a while, but as my roots started growing out more, I wore cornrows. I really wanted my natural hair to be long, so I planned on transitioning for at least a year, but I could not stand the battle between my two textures. I did my BC on November 19, 2004.

    I was totally clueless about what to do with natural hair. I was always the type of person who could never "do" their own hair, so my girlfriend, who decided to go natural with me, and I began searching the web for natural hair care sites. She is the one who told me about hairtipsforme. I have been addicted to the website ever since.

    Even though I am "hairdo challenged", I normally wear my hair in twistouts, which I learned from this website, and a twa. I absolutely LOVE my natural hair, but I know I still have a lot to learn. I am so glad that hairtipsforme is here to help me in my journey. Thanks for listening.

    Latoya

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    Hello everyone. I have been natural for 4 years. I have primarily been wearing head scarves off and on. I can do a few decent hair styles. I have cut my hair down to a twa a few times as well. I have known about this site for a long time. Today, I decided to register.

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    i just registered to this site yesterday (referred bya friend on another board). and i think this is so great. well........i got my last relaxer in Feb. 2004. i started growing my hair and did the BC in Oct. 2004. i've been rockin' kinky twists for a little while because i can admit that i am hair challenged. i dont know how to cornwor or anything. when my hair is out i let my stylist experiment with different styles on my hair. i hope to learn many things from you guys (so that i can spend just a little less time at the salon and a little more time learning about my hair on my own!!) nice to meet you all and looking forward to acting a fool!!

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    Hi everyone. My name is Maggie. Since making the decision to keep my hair natural and grow it as long as it will get (currently it's 10 inches long), I have been glued to my computer searching for hair care sites for my mixed hair (my mother has naturally straight hair, father's was afro curly). I must say, I feel at home here--this is the best site I have come across glorifying the natural beauty of textured hair. For as long as I can remember, I have dreamed of having long flowing hair. Unfortunately, growing up I was raised to believe I had "almost good hair"--not quite good enough to allow to grow long. So I kept it in "acceptable" short fros. I am very grateful to sites such as this promoting pride over our God-blessed tresses.

    Sincerely,

    Proud and Puerto Rican

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    Hi, I'm Vegan

    Here's my hair story. Probably very similar to most of you

    I was 6 yrs old when my grandmother applied my first relaxer. I can't even remember what my naps were like before my first relaxer. Since I was a kid I've worn every hairstyle imaginable. As long as I got that new growth touched up every 5 weeks it didn't matter what style I wore. My last relaxer was in December 2004. Right before the holidays. You know how a sistah is expected to have her head looking good when all the relatives come over.

    The Big Chop didn't come until Jan 23, 2005. There wasn't anything specific that prompted the decision. I had never seriously considered it, but I finally grew tired of my dull, dry, constantly shedding hair. I was sick of hot irons and chemical burns on my scalp. I was sick of battling my new growth trying to make it blend in with the straight hair. I was tired of spending hours trying to make my hair âœlook right❠then just getting frustrated and slapping some grease on and pulling it back into a ponytail. I just got up one morning, pulled out my scissors and started chopping. Later that day I let my mother see my hair and she thought I was crazy. She called my grandmother and said âœThis clown cut off all her hair!❠Everyone thought I was crazy and I have to admit that I regretted it for a few days. I thought I had suffered a moment of temporary insanity so I hid under baseball caps for a few days h34r: It didn't help when a close relative told me I looked like a lesbian (she used the â˜d' word) and said she didn't want to be seen with me. Ouch! That really stung. I got over it though.

    With lots of inspiration from the photo journals of other naturals and lots of great hair care advice from websites like this one and motowngirl.com I began my natural journey. I wouldn't dream of straightening my hair now. I'm just trying to grow long, healthy, nappy hair (I'm almost at two inches now) Women who still relax have asked me why the heck I'm so in love with my hair and I try, but just can't explain it. They just frown at my hair or look at me like I'm crazy . It's cool though â˜cause the hairtipsforme.com folks understand. With you guys I don't have to explain it. I'm typing with one hand and playing in my hair with the other right now. Ya'll know how it is! Thanks to my fellow naturals for inspiring me!

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    Hi everyone!

    Here my introduction. Well i've had my hair chemically altered for as long as i can remember, but last july i decided to stop relaxing my hair and i havent since. It just got to the point that a just could not see the sense in relaxing my hair anymore as it stinks and burns.

    I've been transitioning (just learnt that term) by wearing my hair in braids for quite a while and i kinda like the look of them (my braider is a funky momma). I am plucking up the courage to big chop.

    Its real funny but when i met my fiance ten years ago he was encouraging me to go natural and i tole him not to be stupid. But ten years down the line here i am, going natural after all. I should really listen to him more often, he's a sensible brotha.

    Shout out to all the uk nappies ointlaugh:

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    Hi All,
    I had my last perm in August 04. I started cutting my perm off in phases because my hair was breaking down to the root. I finally gave myself the big chop in November 04. So I guess it has been 5 months chemical free. I've been fumbling around between TWAs, twists and braids. I have a many hair option today as I ever have. I like to change my hairstyle!

    My hair seems really short. But I'm not discouraged at all, that just means that as my hair grows I'll just have that many more hairstyles that I can do! I'm actually really amazed at how soft my hair is and how thick is has gotten. No more bald spots. You'd never guess that I had any! :P The edges of my hair, which were always thin, are filling in and my âœkitchens❠are growing in with the rest of my hair, so they are as long as the rest⦠no more beady beads back there!

    What started out as a response to a bad perm is turning into a new way of life that includes natural hair, exercise, a good diet, spritz bottles and moisturizer! And I feel good about the whole thing. I'm even starting to loose a few pounds. Can't beat that with a stick. Funniest thing of all is that when I notice other women's hair, it's always natural. It's just prettier. Everyone has a right to do what they want. I just prefer natural!

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    Hi All,
    I had my last perm in August 04. I started cutting my perm off in phases because my hair was breaking down to the root. I finally gave myself the big chop in November 04. So I guess it has been 5 months chemical free. I've been fumbling around between TWAs, twists and braids. I have a many hair option today as I ever have. I like to change my hairstyle!

    My hair seems really short. But I'm not discouraged at all, that just means that as my hair grows I'll just have that many more hairstyles that I can do! I'm actually really amazed at how soft my hair is and how thick is has gotten. No more bald spots. You'd never guess that I had any! :P The edges of my hair, which were always thin, are filling in and my âœkitchens❠are growing in with the rest of my hair, so they are as long as the rest⦠no more beady beads back there!

    What started out as a response to a bad perm is turning into a new way of life that includes natural hair, exercise, a good diet, spritz bottles and moisturizer! And I feel good about the whole thing. I'm even starting to loose a few pounds. Can't beat that with a stick. Funniest thing of all is that when I notice other women's hair, it's always natural. It's just prettier. Everyone has a right to do what they want. I just prefer natural!

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    Opps! Responded twice! Yes, I'm a rookie... But that's all right... because a closed mouth don't get fed...!

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    Hello All,

    I'm on my way to naturality(transitioning 4 months), and to think all of these years I've been living the lie. Straight hair is just better. Not so! I don't even remember what age I first got a perm it wasn't that big of an event in my life, just expected. My mother claims 'that relaxed hair is just easier to deal with.' Not so, again!- at least if you want some hair left on your head. I have very thin hair and over the years I feel that the "cream crack" just keeps eating it up. Needless to say I decided to go natural because I want healthier hair, and as many of you say I'm just tired of being burned (pun intended).

    Interestingly enough, this is occuring at the same time that I am entering the job world. I graduate in May. My mom thinks I should get a relaxer or 'do something' to my hair for graduation, but after four years frankly I don't care how I look. The accomplishment is enough for me. She also thinks that I should 'wait until I have enough money to buy make up and get my eyebrows done regularly.' What does this mean, that I won't look good with natural hair? Hmph, who knows- and that's only some of the reaction that I got just from telling people about my decision. You would think I was getting married to the devil or something. But what I do know and have learned is that it's always better to be true to yourself instead of living a lie that you can't afford to perpetuate. Isn't it interesting that I could learn all of this over hair.

    And the journey begins... op:

    BTW I found this site from blackhairmedia.com through the power of black sisterhood.

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    Hello All,

    I'm on my way to naturality(transitioning 4 months), and to think all of these years I've been living the lie. Straight hair is just better. Not so! I don't even remember what age I first got a perm it wasn't that big of an event in my life, just expected. My mother claims 'that relaxed hair is just easier to deal with.' Not so, again!- at least if you want some hair left on your head. I have very thin hair and over the years I feel that the "cream crack" just keeps eating it up. Needless to say I decided to go natural because I want healthier hair, and as many of you say I'm just tired of being burned (pun intended).

    Interestingly enough, this is occuring at the same time that I am entering the job world. I graduate in May. My mom thinks I should get a relaxer or 'do something' to my hair for graduation, but after four years frankly I don't care how I look. The accomplishment is enough for me. She also thinks that I should 'wait until I have enough money to buy make up and get my eyebrows done regularly.' What does this mean, that I won't look good with natural hair? Hmph, who knows- and that's only some of the reaction that I got just from telling people about my decision. You would think I was getting married to the devil or something. But what I do know and have learned is that it's always better to be true to yourself instead of living a lie that you can't afford to perpetuate. Isn't it interesting that I could learn all of this over hair?

    And the journey begins... op:

    BTW I found this site from blackhairmedia.com through the power of black sisterhood.

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    Hi there!Welcome to hairtipsforme!* Please introduce yourself to the...

    Hello, I'm sorry I didn't introduce myself yesterday. But I did post about hair care products.
    I started twisting my hair Dec. 2002 when my hair extensions started to fall out. The braider apparently felt it wasn't her job to make sure the braids were tight. But I'm glad she did a lousy job. I responded by trying to find a blowout kit. I didn't know they were only for short hair. I wanted my hair to grow.
    Someone at work told me about Perfect Results which I realized was gooey, and thicker than vaseline! Eventually I learned about Organic Root Stimulator. I found this product to be exceptional. Anti-itch Scalp Oil and No More Flakes are great and the dry hair wash can be used in-between regular washings.
    But all the products I've used have worked well.
    I found this site when I was on the ORS site. They had a link.
    I have enjoyed my experience wearing twists. They work well with my tightly coiled and curly hair.
    I've had some negative comments, sometimes from friends and family members. But I take it all in stride especially when I see women with "ghetto wigs", bad weaves and over processed hair. _headshake:

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    Hello...My name is christine and I am not starting the natural hair journey myself actually. My niece is. She is 10 yo and her hair was horribly dried out and falling out in handfuls. She had been getting her hair processed with straightening treatments at least 3 /4 times a year for about 6 years now. It looked awful. It felt awful and worst of all she could do nothing with it without it pulling her hair out at the roots and breaking off at the ends(this is how it appeared to me , though I could be wrong) . Let me explain. I am causcasian. My niece is my adopted sisters daughter and she lives with me since about a year ago. I have no real knowledge of how to do african american hair and have been wanting Zhane to try natural hair for a while now. So at this point we had to cut all her hair off. Its terribly short and I know she hates it , but I cried more than she did. In fact SHE didn't cry at all. I was so upset, but it had to be done. The rate she was going with her hair, It would all fall out anyway and her scalp was a mess. I know her mom is gonna flip( like i said my niece lives with me, so mom doesn't know yet)but she will have to try to understand. I will allow my niece to look at the pics on this board so she can try to understand what it is we are aiming for. Please any advice, pics , stories anything, would be appreciated as I can bring her on and let her read the stuff you all post.

    thanks in advance for any and all help.

    christine

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    Hello there!!
    My name is Gabrielle (everyone calls me Gabby). My last perm was somewhere around Jan 2002. I just started college that Fall, (2001), and just couldn't afford to get all of that hair permed, washed, set, curled, etc, etc, so I decided to go natural. I transitioned for about 4-5 months then just big chopped in June of 2002, and I have been fully natural since then.
    I actually registered on this site a long time ago, but never posted because I just preferred to op: .
    I have posted in several hair albums though, (Melanizm, Feepee, Asha, NapturallyMe, ANaisKarim, JetBlack Kinks to name a few), so I'm not a total loser ... right?
    My schedule is basically quite hectic but I decided that I will just have to start making time to come in and visit this site and actually put up a post here or there.
    Okay so, here's my album (with all of 5 pics I am working on it people. So take a look, here's the link.

    http://public.fotki.com/NappturalNurse/

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    Hi everyone. I'm from Mississippi and about 4 monyts into my transition. I got my first perrm before I entered high school. Since my mom still gets her hair straightened, we were referred to someone. I remember when I sat in the lady's chair. She parted my hair down the middle and called everyone over to see my "good hair" that had never been relaxed. That probably should have been a sign for me to get up and leave. Then, she talked it over with the ladies in the shop and decided to just put the kiddie perm in my hair. I did the gelled up, weaved up styles for a while, and my hair just shed and shed.
    I've changed stylists over the years, but everytime the damage gets better, it just gets worse again. My hair is thin now, but the thick roots are coming. I plan to big chop in a couple of months. I had been considering going natural, but one day one of my sorors saw me after having walked through the rain. My hair had waved up, and she asked me why anyone who had hair that could do that would perm it. I started asking myself the same thing, and a few search engines later, here I am.
    I really like the site and i think i've become an album stalker. (I think I'm obsessed with roshini's hair www.roshini.net. But at least I'm on the road to a head full of beautiful, nappy hair.

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    Hi all-

    Checking in from Seattle WA.

    I've been on this site for a few months now, and am finally posting my hello.

    I was sportin a short fro for about 5 years and REALLY LIKED IT. One missed trip to the barber and I realized I LIKE the feel of my natural hair --it's a lot softer than I remember from way back when.

    So now I'm on a quest to see what will become of it if I just let it grow. Lots of challenges, but I'm sticking with it. Thank heaven I found this site, so I'm not feeling totally alone and I'm getting some ideas of what to do with my nappy head.

    When I get around to taking some pix, I'll post them.

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    Hi all New Orleans here. I and Candace I have been natural for 4 months today and my hair is doing well. this is the first time in my life that I have been natural. My mother made me keep a jheri curl from 4 years old until 16 (I was 16 in 1996) !!!! I begged her to let me reverse the curl and we did. I never knew how or was told how to take care of relaxed hair...so I learned to wear glued in weave...yuck! Then years later I tried color. I was recenlty motivated to go natural when a classmate did but I found out yesterday she was not natural any more . I have never been so happy nappy. i love my hair texture and look forward to it being long and natural.

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    Hey everybody......

    My name is Glanedys and I've been natural for about a week now. My last perm was in January of this year and I did the Big Chop on April 8. This is something that I thought about doing for years, but I didn't have the nerve or any support . Now, I have both, and I'm glad I found this site, because I have lots of questions for the natural veterans. Hope you all can help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Hello everyone,*waving*
    This is my first post to the board, and I am excited a/b it!
    I joined a few days ago, but wanted to look (er...lurk) around a bit before saying howdy.

    I've been natural since May 2001 around my HS graduation and have experimented with and abused my hair for almost 4 years. I had transitioned the previous year and trimmed off slowly, but went back to relaxers. This time I transitioned from Jan to Mar 01, then BC'd...and then the stylist lured me into a texturizer...But the Creator works in mysterious ways b/c a couple of mos. after that I went to a new salon for a *special* trim that CUT off the proccessed two inches I had accumulated. So I started over...again in May w/1.5 inch of hair. I was natural but still had a permie mentality. It did not help that I was the only Af-Am girl in my circle of homies that was natural (I grew up only in small towns in GA, so...yeah!). I was the outlier and trendsetter, and didn't have any real resources. I'd joined a naturally curly site ( you gals may know which one...) and it just wasn't a good fit. Too trendy for me, and I became obsessed w/color and weaves/braids...Damage, damage, damage! So anyways in the past year I've cried over my hair in the sink (and on the floor) and apologized for the way I've been treating it.

    Since Jan 2005, I have been treating it w/much more respect and TLC. I've started a text journal on my PC, but as soon as I figure out the best method for a pictoral journal you ladies will be the first to peek!

    I feel like I am going natural all over again, lol. I have kinky-curly, 7-9 in. long hair w/some broken or damaged sections that I've been trimming, but overall it is healthier than it used to be. I've established a workable routine and am ready to get my grow on, haha.

    Now that I am finishing college (I grad Aug. 6, yay!) and see other 'trendsetters' I don't feel so awkward, I feel natural and normal. I'd been lurking over at the long hair site for a while, but those ladies are so "Go relaxers, it's your birthday!" it's just conflicting. You all here are where I need to be, and I am so grateful. I'd been here before, but was reluctant to join b/c I thought this was the * Nazi* site, like some had described it, but you ladies are far from that IMO. You just don't apologize for no longer living the *lye* and embrace that fact. Go'n 'head, lol!

    Thanks for reading *sigh*. College made my words long, haha.

    Artemis E.

    ETA: That drawing of the woman w/the puff on top of her head is my FAVE. That's what I am aspring to (as soon as my length gets there).

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    Hello my name is Chasity and I love this site, it's very informative. I'm 28 yrs old and I live in Sunny Florida (Orlando to be exact). I'm married and I have a beautiful baby boy. I've been natural for about 3 years now and loving it. I struggled for years with perms and weaves. I had to make a change and hopefully one day I would eventually loc my hair, but for now I'll enjoy having beautiful natural hair........

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    Hello all. My name is Michelle and I am 4 to 5 weeks out of a relaxer and thinking of going natural. Last year I cut my long hair into a short style, which, I have done before. This year I decided I wanted to get healthy physically, mentally and spiritually. I started working out at a gym about 2 1/2 months ago and I am finding that having a relaxer and working out is not a good combination even when your hair is short.

    When my 4 yr. old son asked me yesterday if I was going to the hairdresser, it pushed me a little closer to going natural. I have not gotten my husband's input to this idea yet but I'm sure I will get a raised eyebrow. I know I will have his support regardless of what I do. I don't know if I want to lock my hair or leave it loose but I guess if I can get through transitioning I'll be okay. As with everything else it will take lots of prayer. I am certainly glad I found this website though, I'm sure it will make transitioning a little easier.

    Love & Blessings,
    Michelle

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    Hi,

    I joined this site a long time ago, but I posted for the first time today so I thought I should introduce myself. I got my last perm in August of 2002 and I haven't been back since. I had been natural off and on since 1996, but I gave in once last time and swore that I would never go back again when I saw the results. I did braids off and on from 2002 up until last summer when I decided that I wanted to get to know my hair without extensions. I have read and researched and experimented with a lot of styles and products and now I am here to learn more and share what I have learned. I also have started a blog to write about my experiences and thoughts. Whenever I get around to scanning my pictures or figure out how to get my pictures off of my cell phone, I will post them.

    -Xay

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    hi everyone. i found this website in a book i bought named textured tresses by diane da costa. im very much in love with this website. i have been natural since october 2003. i began my journey because i was tired of perming my hair and all i would do is just get braids anyway. so one day i woke up and went to the beauty parlor and told the stylist to cut it all off to the new growth. my hair was so short but it was so pretty. i now have about 8 inches of healthy hair and i continue to go through my journey of being natural.

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    Hello to everyone,

    After spending one month living on the ocean in St Martin, FWI my relaxed tresses had had enough. Simply cut it off March 2003, much to my mother's despair- There was enough growth to braid for the first few months. Then I found this website in December in a desperate search for alternative hair dos for natural hair

    It was a handy experience, much cheaper living in london to simply keep the hair natural. I used an oil moisturiser and that was it. Braids became the only alternative when I get a bit tired frankly with the tidying up of the hair every evening with business and all.

    My passion is with travel and destination/event management and because so many folks have an opinion on the"good" hair for business and creating an impression - sometimes I feel unsure at the choice of remaining natural- though my spirit feels overjoyed to be this way. I made sure to wear my hair all out for my wedding.

    Believe me -it surprised more people of our race than it bothered my new in-laws.

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    Hello...My name is christine and I am not starting the...

    Make sure you buy products w/natural ingredients like Organic Root Stimulator(there are other brands). Then let it grow till some length.
    She can style it in dreads, twists or braids depending on the tightness of curl of her hair. Also, if you live in a city w/a large black population seek out natural hair salons. And make sure you check back here. I wish you and your niece all the best.

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    hi, my name is kisskidee joined the forum yesterday.i did the big chop March 12 2005.had comb coils done looked pretty cute.i,m happy with my count it 2inches of natural nappy hair.i must admit i do get frustrated sometimes not being able to style my hair different ways other than the 2strand twists.But reading this forum & using the experiences of u ladies i,m learning not just 2b happy with my hair but love it.THANKS LADIES.

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