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  • how did you get through the "ugly" stage

     

    I hope that didnt offend anyone, but ive seen it referred to as the ugly , puffy, rebellious, teenage stage> I am wondering what kind of styles helped you through the difficult stage where lots of people decided to not loc afterall. I put twist in my hair 2 weeks ago and am looking forward to the journey. I am afraid of the ugly stage and trying to figure out what styles can be done to kind of "disguise" the ugly. Im thinking scarves and updos? i love braid outs on locs but am not sure of that would work in the early stages.
    please fill me in on what got you all through that stage, I'd love to see pics too

    thanks in advance!

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    Not looking in mirrors helped me. Also, wearing a scarf. Going freeform really helped, because then I stopped expecting my hair to be 'neat'.

    I didn't bother with styles.

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    i didnt have an ugly stage...lol...

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    I am in the ugly phase now. Let me tell you, a few weeks ago, I was ready to call it quits, so I know how you feel!

    Accessorize, my dear! That is the answer. Scarves, bandanas, turbans, head bands, etc. Hair accessories will be your best friend. You can try flat twisting them up to hide the roots also.

    Here is a photo of my messy flat twist attempt:

    Simply wrapped in tulle ribbon:

    Bandana: (Not flashing gang signs, lol, I'm marking my 2 month anniversary)

    I took this photo yesterday after freshly latching:

    So yeah, I'm getting there...June 25th will be my 3 month anniversary.

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    Honnestly, it flew by without me noticing. I woke up one day and it was over I believe one of my friends used the term "rat's nest" once but it didn't affect me one way or other. I think that mainly, using barrettes for a swept back look was as far as I went, the rest of the time I just let them be.

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    thanks ladies!
    teyfan88, your hair looks good even in the so called "ugly stage"

    I should stop saying "ugly stage".

    karibanna- it was quick for you? thats what im hoping for

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    I think it flew by because I didn't sweat it nor did I constantly look in the mirror and despair over how they looked. I guess it helped that this was my second set so I knew what I was in for.

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    I was prepared for the ugly stage from my months of research lol so when it came I just let it happen sometime curls would help if I had something that I had to do that required me to look "neat" but otherwise I just let it happen. I know that I'm not ugly so it didn't bother me so much.

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    YOU EMBRACE IT. Your locks are going to go through many stages. You have to be PATIENT.

    When I first started, I used to have a lock that would sit up like an antenna, but as they formed and matured, that specific lock started to act right.

    Locks are gonna go through an "Ugly" stage, you just got have the patience to deal with that stage.

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    thanks ladies! teyfan88, your hair looks good even in the...

    Thank you!

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    I was prepared for the ugly stage from my months...

    yeah me too. exactly why i am asking. I can handle anything if ive done my research and am somewhat prepared. I am not concerned at all with looking ugly because i think i have a pretty nice face , i just want my hair to look as neat as possible. im just so anxious, i want to see how my hair will transform. i know it takes time, but I am a little impatient . i want to hit fast forward, to beautiful, neat styled locs.... a girl can dream right? lol

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    I got through it by embracing it. Research on forum had prepared me well, so I knew it had to happen. As a matter of fact, I didn't consider any of stages "ugly." They just were. I didn't bother to style, use headbands, ribbons, curls, etc. b/c I understood it'd loc faster if I just let my hair be. It didn't disappoint.

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    teyfan88, no ugly stage happened with yours it seems.

    The ugly stage with my SLs wer ugly indeed, all scalp and rat tails. I simply wore head bands and didn't look too hard into mirrors.

    DeBe

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    YOU EMBRACE IT. Your locks are going to go through...

    Exactly (the bolded)! I had some days where I thought...Lord, this just don't look cute at all. My "not so cute" stage went by pretty quickly and smoothly all because I learned to love me through out that stage. Don't over think it sis, just go with the flow. With each stage, you'll learn more about yourself.... Enjoy it.

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    didn't have an ugly faze. my hair stay fab
    but i did a lot of pinning an twisting my hair into different looks.
    i liked it and it helped me not get bored since i couldn't do a ponytail

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    You ladies are awesome! I appreciate all the responses.

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    If I had an ugly stage I did not see it lol. But if you need your hair to look a certain way for work purposes then headbands and rollersets might help.

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    I really don't remember going through an ugly stage either. I know if I felt as though my hair wasn't cooperating for that day I'd just wet it, and move right along.

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    when i felt that my hair didn't look the best, i reminded myself that it wasn't goign to last forever. and i also wore bonnets and head wraps. i especially like headwraps because there are so many ways to wear them and so many fabric types and patterns to choose from.


    hope that helps.

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    I really don't remember going through an ugly stage either....

    ^^^This!

    I also have a variety of good-smelling shampoos and oils (Monoi de Tahiti, KBB's Hair oils, Ginseng Miracle, CURLS), so on those days when the babies act up , I dunk my head under the shower stream, wash, wrap my head with a towel while I dress, then add a little oil and go. Being clean and smelling so good helps me get over myself....

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    hats, hats, and more HATS!

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    I think the first 6 months were/are the hardest. Just know that your hair is doing what it does and one day you will look in the mirror and say ' hey, I have dreadlocks'!!

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    What some call the "ugly stage" I actually love. I am sad to say that even though I am 9 months in, my hair has never gone through what is described as the ugly stage. I really want it though.

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    I got through it by embracing it. Research on forum...

    this right here

    i didn't do anything different than i'm doing now (as far as styling goes). I might occasionally pin it up one day or wear a headband b/c i felt like doing something different but you just have to wrap your mind around what locs & kinky/nappy hair looks like since it is sooooo different from p.ermed and straight hair which is the norm.

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    Ironically, I did not know it was a such phase as an " ugly stage" until I became a member on this forum, and by that time I was already beyond that point. It really wasn't a big deal for me. and I just assumed it was all part of the process. Besides, I think it looks rather cool and if your overall appearance is "on point", you should be fine in my opinion. When you reach that point in your journey, you may even enjoy that stage, but most importantly beauty is very subjective and " in the eye of the beholder" In short and as I alluded to, its really not that bad once you are mentally prepared. Good luck on your journey.

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    Lots of braid outs, AVJ spritzer and satin scarf at night.

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    im IN the "ugly" stage now. im 4 months into the journey and how ive survived is w/ a simple black scarf or a hat. on days when im just not feeling it i run to those but on days like 2day i just want my hair free so no scarf or hat.

    ive learned to simply embarce my hair this point. i know i wont have "perfect" locs but only for a few days seeing as how my hair likes to unravel and im ok w/ that...its just a phase and once they mature i can look back and know that it was worth it

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    I'm still in it, too. The front of my hair is all frizz while the back just has a slight case of the fuzzies. I also have a patch of really soft, fine hair at each of my temples that's too short to go into a braid. I just put it in single strand twists, but they don't look like they have any plans to lock any time soon.

    I like to wear rasta tams with a little of the front peeking out, scaves and headbands (with and w/o a flower attached). As soon as I can do a decent up do, that's going to be one of my mainstays as well.

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    Let's see: 1st set of locks - I surround myself with love/support from people online and offline who liked my hair. I wore my hair in roller-sets or braided twist-outs. I could not cover my hair at work, so hats/scarves was for the weekends. I remember a good-lookin' brotha w/locs told me not to give up during my "fuzzy-stage" and I made it through.

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    Represent each day with your head up and get creative. I think another poster said it was a blur and I agree. I pined and styled my babies often so even others were hatin on my hair i was in love it and they kept the looks and comments to themselves.

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