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    It's sad that some black people (men and women)...

    HEY FREEDOM I LIKE THAT SHIRT..WHERE DID YOU GET IT FROM?PEACE.

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    Okay, just wanted to get this off my chest...Went...

    I am contently told from people with naturally straight hair that they wish they had more hairstyle versitility like my styles. Just keep rockin' your style.

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    I just got a ig'nant a* note on blackplanet from a guy who said...

    "you might look good IF you got a perm, you need to stop with that afro SH* "

    thats not the first note i have got a note like that...it's so so sad.

    I used to work with a girl many years ago when I was sportin a TWA, we were having a conversation about our hair and she was saying that she could never wear her hair like mine...then with tears in her eyes she actually said "it seems like God has cursed us, he gave us all the bad stuff, we ain't got good hair or nothing"...I was so shocked I couldnt even reply, I will never forget the look on her face when she said it, she was about to cry, she really beleived what she was saying and most of the girls I grew up with feel the same way.

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    first off, southerncurl dats real deep...

    N ion kno, um not 1 dats gon patronize people because of their miseducation regarding natural hair. It's hard, very hard, 2 find refuge from d constant media images of str8 haired or 'pretty' haired gurls... The same way that many just 'knew' the earth was flat, is the same way that many of our sisters just 'know' that our hair is bad, it 'has' to be straightened, and we're not 'lucky' like other races or bi-racial ladies. But education, evolution, and the gently pressing of those who desire all of us to love US... perhaps then things will change. And if our situation wont change around us, we'll b sure not 2 change 2 conform 2 our situation.

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    love, I got the shirt at the annual Natural Hair show back in June...They have a store here in the Atlanta area though...

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    It is very sad, self hatred is running deep...

    Thats right she need a reality check just becuase our hair is a different texture does not mean it is not beautiful it is elegent and there are so many things we can do with it becuase most caucasians no offense can not keep braids in there hair with out them siping easily or getting fuzzy most caucaians/mezicans/italians/eetc. can not have afros or 2 strands we have our own beautiful hair dos and types i love my hair "I SAID I LOVE MY HAIR!!!"

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    love, I got the shirt at the annual Natural...

    Oh yeah? Which store would that be? I would love to get one!

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    i don't understand why they hate our hair becuase our hair came first adam and eve were balck god created them from soil soil is black ever since i was 6 my dad taught me that and i don't know why we hate our skin our skin came first how it got to be shades of white and peach is that people began to go up norht and they got lighter after time nubians wanted to be light so the mixed with the lighter ones and that created the egyptians egyptians are black!!

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    Sometimes I feel bad because I think 'we' have the prettiest hair is the world and I pity others who aren't able to experience shrinkage, coils, fuzz, hard waves, kinky, little curly ball curls, loops, watch spring curls, frizz and hand in fro disease. I know that's not good either, but it's true :

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    pearce1974, that "hand in fro disease" is something else aint it? But how wonderful a feeling!

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    Yeah, baby, yeah!!! [searching for austin powers smiley...] I have two mirrors at my desk to see the back of head and sides, and all day I feel for a coil in the back of my head to play with all day

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    Her brain is not free from the chains...

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    Yes, her mind needs to be free. When she starts telling me how I should wear my hair, I tell her I do not take hair requests!

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    Her shackles are so very very evident ...

    ITA .... u should tell her to just cut off her hair if she thinks "we are the only ones who don't have pretty hair". Why flaunt it or try to fix it if it's ugly, right??
    AMEN!!!! some black people have no idea how to love & appreciate themselves. ops:

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    You told here right, whether the information you gave her registered or not... I don't know... but at least you did your part and planted the seed.

    Starr

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    ladyeve, i'm confused. are you a natural or not because you seem to be the one w/hate for nappy hair here? i'm not hating on you; i'm just confused by your statement. i see more & more sistas that are natural everyday. i'm not concerned w/black guys who don't like nappy hair because that's just an excuse. there are so many black guys w/every race of woman except black women so that's just an excuse they use because they don't want to be w/a black woman period. i don't want that type of guy who can't except or appreciate who we are, how we look, or the nappy texture of our hair. don't get it twisted. you do have to admit that blacks who think like this are brainwashed. don't get mad at the people on this board because we don't hate ourselves because we have nappy or varying degrees of nappy hair. be happy that you are healthy & blessed & stop sweating the small stuff like hair texture.

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    You told here right, whether the information you gave...

    Thanks! She's putting out too much energy in hating the way we look as a people and hopefully one day she'll just realize how unique we are!

    Ladyeve...you are entitled to your opinion, that's what makes the world go round.

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    ...and the looks she gave me when I wore a twistout...it doesn't bother me though, because I already know her feelings about our hair. Just wait til I show up with the Angela Davis fro!

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    ladyeve and many like her will appreciate nappy hair when it becomes mainstream. when jay-z and p. diddy hump on some nappy headed girls in their videos perhaps then it'll be okay for "us" to be nappy.

    maybe it'll take the approval of white america? in stars wars' attack of the clones natalie portman had her hair styled into nappiness. i guess it'll have to be full blown cross-over fad for many black men and women to finally accept nappy hair as beautiful.

    i'm sure women who stopped wearing corsets got a lot of flak for not maintaining that perfect hour glass shape. what about women who started wearing pants?! shoot, there was a time when women had to cover their hair as a sign of modesty-imagine how men looked upon them when they chose to wear their hair freely.

    black men can walk around with their hair nappy, why can't i?

    yes, many people aren't accepting of black women wearing their hair natural because change is usually uncomfortable, but i'm staying on course no matter who likes or not.

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    No angry reply from me. Just hope that one...

    Mollyp!

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    I just got a ig'nant a* note on blackplanet...

    Southerncurl, it is indeed a shame how deep the self-hatred and the unquestioning assumption of Euro-centric beauty standards runs in the African-American community. I have checked out your album, and YOU AND THOUSANDS OF OTHER LADIES ARE DEFINITELY ROCKIN THE 'FRO! As a man living in Atlanta, it is good to see soooo many Black women wearing their natural hair with pride and without apologies! To everybody reading this: Keep steppin' and don't let negative comments about your natural skin color, hair texture, or body size getcha down or hold you back!

    I've heard several comments about how "not everybody can wear" a TWA, a BAA, and other variations of natural styles. To this, I say that natural styles can be worn by everyone but it often takes CONFIDENCE to do so. I've heard that "natural hair doesn't look good on everbody". That must be one of the most mind-boggling, logic-defying statements I've heard in a quite while. Hmmmmm....

    Take care, all

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    Keep steppin' and don't let negative comments about your...

    Ditto. We support God's vision for our hair by wearing it natural.

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    I'm new everyone and this topic hits home with me in a big way when i first did my B/C my husband told me i looked like a dyke. A comment that i can't get past and that was more than a month ago. I was thinking he'd get use to it but last night he looked at me-straight in my eyes- and told me he hates my hair cut. I love my hair just the way it is. I think it's more beautiful now than it ever was with the perm. It's healthy and growing well and i won't be forced to change by anyone. (box It's a shame how some black people don't see how lovely our natural attributes are. Perfect strangers compliment my hair and my own husband refuses to accept it.

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    Thanks millerkin!!!

    lvlycnmgrl I bet a million dollars your husband will like it when it gets long, When I first started growing locs years ago (they are gone now) I got so much flack for how short my hair was and on top of that it was twisted, my grandparents hated my hair, guys made jokes and girls turned up their nose but as soon as my hair got "long" oh everybodt just LOVED it, it was alright then...people really make me sick with these hair issues.

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    That is really sad. I receive more compliments from white people more than my own people who arent into the NATURAL look. It is simplebrainwashing. When advertisement, the media portrays a look and specifies that it is beautiful then those who do not possess this attribute becomes caught up! I honestly love my hair the way it is I can't stand perms I wont even straighten it. Some of us are so clueless about how to take care of their hair they feel trapped and scared worrying what others may think. I love my tendrils. If we as a people can be swayed by hair illusion who is to say where it would stop. Saddened. I shake my head when I see creamy crack hair style go wrong I can only hope she wakes up. Like what Morpheus did for neo!

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    i'm feelin this post ALOT. the thing that people don't always realize though - is that the majority of "flack" that "we" get are from "each other" - meaning african american men and women. my whole family (whom are white with blonde straight hair) envy me because i have "good" hair - pretty hair - hair that will hold styles - curls if i want - 'pressed' if i want - kinky if i want - braids and twists with no need for rubber bands. when i stopped braiding my hair - it was my uncle (white) who told me "you look so much prettier now with your hair natural". when I have bad hair days and do something 'silly' with my hair - it is my little cousin (white) who asks me to do the same thing with her hair. this isn't at all to propose that we should hold our heads up because white people say it is okay to - just an observation that "white america" ain't where this whole 'hatred' of hair still lingers. it seems to me that even though the origin might have 'started' there it is "we" who seems to have the difficulty letting it go.

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    Everyday, no matter where I go I get compliments from a bunch of white folk, old and young, they wanna touch it and they always say "I wish my hair would do that!!", I do get compliments from black people also mainly older black women who probably had a fro back in the day....younger black folk stare, point and laugh and sometimes I get a rude comment that they think I didnt hear, anyway its very frustrating but like ive said before we are breaking the cycle and I hope my grandchildren dont have to deal with these issues.

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    I am always being told that my hair is pretty! There are some people out there who are jealous because they can't do anythig with their hair so when they see me rockin my twists or my fro or whatever style I choose(being natural gives me that option), they feel like they have a right to express their opinions to me. It isn't my fault they don't possess enough self confidence or esteem to do what I do. Don't let anyone break you down. Be free and beautiful!!!

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    It isn't my fault they don't possess enough self...

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    A comment that i can't get past and that...

    one, not the only, but one of the major reasons why my relationship ended with my ex (fiance) was because i chose to go natural...without his permission (can you believe he said that?) i wore a twa for six months until he begged me to grow it out. he said he was feeling a loss of attraction to me because i looked like a dude to him. now i have about 7 inches of hair. until this day he hates my hair. he only likes it when it's in a twist out because it looks like i have 'good' hair. i've educated him every which way, but he doesn't care, he hates nappy hair. according to him i look like a run-away slave with my nappy azz hair. he never got used to it. we just weren't meant to be together.

    for every 1 mean thing he said there were 5 compliments received by others to remind me i looked just fine.

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