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    Okay, just wanted to get this off my chest...Went to lunch with a co-worker who happens to be a permie...we're driving down Peachtree Street and she sees a girl who I believe was non-black and my co-worker says "she has pretty hair"...I keep quiet. However; she continues to say "how come we are the only ones who don't have pretty hair?"

    Okay, couldn't keep quiet any longer. Had to tell her that we do have pretty hair, but so many black people are sooooo conditioned to believe otherwise. I know it went into one ear and out the other because she's always commenting on my hair and making little remarks...Like I have some two-strand twists now, and she said I had little squirrels, before when i rocked comb coils, she said I had little worms...When will the madness end? Fear of a fro'd nation!!!

    Just had to say that!

    Peace!

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    she spoke for herself
    my NATURAL hair is pretty, as for her permed hair ...

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    Yeah, natural hair hatred runs deep, but most permies don't even know how bad they have it. I know I didn't when I was a permie and when I was natural but hadn't yet embraced my hairs.

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    I have a friend that says dumb mess like that all the time. What bugs me out even more is that now I have nice hair because it's long. When it was short and I sported an afro all the time I "needed a perm". But, these same folks see my hair now and have nothing but nice comments, to my face anyway.

    My whole thinking is, it's the same hair just different length!!!

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    We all have those types of women around us. All you can do is inform them. Isn't it such a shame we don't consider our natural selves beautiful.
    We shall overcome someday.

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    It is very sad, self hatred is running deep for her...I LOVE myself and my hair and I thank God I went the nappy route four years ago....Even when I was a permie, I never felt bad towards nappy hair, in fact, my pops used to say "you should give the chemicals a break" so the family support was there. Both my sister's are natural too. Like one poster said, all we can do is inform, but it's heartbreaking to hear black women who just truly don't appreciate their gift.

    Everyone else at work just love it and always has something positive to say...guess there will always be one!!!

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    Her shackles are so very very evident

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    Her shackles are so very very evident ...

    ITA .... u should tell her to just cut off her hair if she thinks "we are the only ones who don't have pretty hair". Why flaunt it or try to fix it if it's ugly, right??

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    Poor girl. I never felt like that (even when I was a permie). One day she'll wake up . hopefully

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    Sadly, some brothers feel this way, too. I go to another message board and the other day, this guy said that natural girls are OK but he really loved the perms, sometimes he just loves the straight hair. Whatever......

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    she spoke for herself NATURAL hair is pretty,...

    ITA. She was only speaking for herself, 'cause my hair is very pretty.

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    Foolishness on Peachtree? Tsk tsk.

    Last time I was on Peachtree this women said to me, Gurl yo hair is so fly!..

    and ya know what? It is.
    All that self hate is a shame. Just rock your natural like its the best thing since slice bread (cause you know it is) and let her see from your example. I've found that people 's attitudes about my hair feed off of my attitude about my hair. They may have never thought an afro was fly, but after hearing me hype up the naps they cant help but understand that theres something to loving the hair God gave you.

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    That is SO so so sad

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    I love my sister so don't get me wrong.

    But she and I decided to go natural at the same time about two years ago she would talk to me about how long her hair was and was so excited about it. Recently she went back to a perm she said she had it natural to see how long it would grow and since she got the perm it is now down to her back and she was so happy "for about a month" she went to the salon and they told her she keep it nappy too long and they slapped another perm on it not a touch up but just a total re-application then her hair started to break off :-cre so she went back to the stylist and she told her she needed to cut it even cause it has split ends. Long story short she has short hair again It was pointless but this is the part that really made her mad when she went back to work her co-worker said its about time you started wearing you hair like a black women she said I was wearing my hair like a black women it was natural he told her no it was just nappy it looks good now. ops: now she is wishing she didn't perm her hair.

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    she spoke for herself NATURAL hair is pretty,...

    But sadly, this is an opinion I've heard too often. Oh, conditionned minds! :-?

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    I love my sister so don't get me wrong.But...

    That is SOOOO WRONG, on soooooooo many levels!!!

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    We do need to educate people on perception of black hair. My "non black friends" absolutely love my hair. They say because I can do so much with it and they can't do much with theirs.

    When I get negative comments about my nappy hair, it is from black folk. However, it is usually the hairdressers! I am not surprised at all coz I am sure they fear that if too many people believe my hair is "pretty" they will loose business. So what did I do? I stopped going to hairdressers. Yep! I do my hair (braids with/without extensions, trims, deep conditions) you name it, I do it myself!

    I patiently tell people, who want to hear, how we are blessed with the type of hair we have. And like everything else we just have to learn how to enjoy it and love ourselves in the process.

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    people like that you just have to feel sorry for

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    It's sad that some black people (men and women) are that far gone! I wear my naps proudly and they see that and most of them love it when I change styles, it's like they can't wait to see what's next. This permie co-worker I don't think will EVER see that our hair is BEAUTIFUL!!!

    I just couldn't imagine hating myself that much!

    I wish I could wear my t-shirt to work, the one that says "Don't ask me about the Napp in mine, and I won't ask you about the lye in yours"

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    I have a friend that says dumb mess like...

    I have to agree to this.....its weird because people automatically assume you have "bad" hair if its twa length. I know someone that always said (before my chop) that this certain group of sisters in a family had bad hair that couldn't grow. I saw them and they all had twa+ length. Although now I know that their product selection may have contributed to some extreme dryness, I thought then that she was clouded in her judgement.

    When I chopped people were oh its cute on u, what are you going to do w/ it? yada yada yada. Now that its got medium length their all about the oohs and aaahs. Not that I don't appreciate the compliments, there are just more of them now....which is weird to me.

    I think its just a misguided inherent idea that natural hair doesn't grow.

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    when i was a permie i always wondered how it would be to be natural but never did cause of negativity toward our hair....i am just glad i see the light.
    I just hope the more people that see our hair in all its nappy glory will realize just how beautiful it really is

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    Its very sad that (some) Black people still think like that...

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    When I go out with my husband and baby girl, everyone always say,'Oh, she gone have some pretty hair". My husband is mixed(black, white) and I am black. I got so tired of everybody commenting on how she got her 'daddy's hair' that I say, 'Oh, it's just as beautiful as mine, thanks'.

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    That is SO so so sad ...

    That is so true.

    If you want to continue to perm your hair...fine...but don't talk negative about my choice of going natural. All hairs are beautiful. It shows our glory and what we had to endure to get those hairs. That's why they call this a journey and I am smiling with every step!!

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    It is a journey, and one I'm glad I've taken. Like one poster said, if you choose to perm, fine, but don't hate on us who understand and have seen the light!

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    Yiup yiup. its a sad world that we live in. I constantly hear comments in this country about "nice hair". but they're never referring to nappy hair..its always dougla (thats indian mixed with black) or moulatto, or anything BUT nappy hair. i admit, i was like that to..but thanks to you ladies (and me growing up) i'm embracing and i'm loving and i'm flaunting the real me.

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    Cloudyface...that's wonderful!

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    Quote:
    i admit, i was like that to..but thanks to you ladies (and me growing up) i'm embracing and i'm loving and i'm flaunting the real me.
    I'm with you!

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    she spoke for herself NATURAL hair is pretty,...

    Exactly!!! I couldn't have said it better myself.

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    When God was done making everything what did he say??? HE SAID IT WAS GOOD! SEEING AS ADAM WAS A BLACK MAN WELL I GUESS HE WAS GOOD! EVERYTHING FROM THE CROWN OF HIS HEAD TO THE SOUL OF HIS FEET! EVERYTHING IS GOOD THAT GOD MADE. HE MADE NO MISTAKE ON ANY OF US! THEY WILL WAKE UP....ONE DAY!

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