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    My hair is currently permed, my last perm was somewhere near the begining of August. I want to go natural pretty badly. I can't even do anything with my hair while it's permed, because my hair won't hold the perm for long. My hair is so coarse, that it is nappy even with a "super strength perm" I feel it is a big waste of time and money. Also I've been seeing alot of people walk around on my campus with natural hair and finding myself inwardly admiring that they could pull that off. I am tired of the burning of my scalp--the front edges of my hair are starting to deteriorate --causing a slightly receeding hairline. To reinterate...I want to go natural.

    I have been wanting to go natural for a long time now, but a friend of mine (the one who has been perming my hair for me when I could not see a professional) would tell me that I couldn't wear my hair natural because it is TOO nappy--she kinda made me feel bad when she gestsured toward one of our friends who's hair is natual and this beautiful wavy--mixed haired texture and said, "Now that's what natural hair should look like" I knew my hair would never look like that, so for a while I gave up the thought.

    I just stumbled upon this site after looking up different natural styles and it seems like it would be a great source of support and guidance in this process.

    I have not had time to look through the entire forum yet--I am trying to get as much in as I can in limited time, but I would like to get some opinions on how to start the transition, how long it may take, and what to expect. What are the steps that you go through? I was thinking about getting braids until enough time passed to where I could cut off all the processed and damaged hair, so it could grow long enough for me to do something with it.

    Also for all you people who have these natural hair styles (especially the ones with coarser hair) Do you find negative responses? Is it more difficult to get jobs, or be accepted into areas that expect more of the eurocentric look from african american females?

    Any help in answering any of my questions or concerens would be greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance.

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    First of all, congratulations on your decision to go natural! I'm glad more and more women are opening their eyes to see their REAL beauty. And secondly, I'm really sorry that you put off the idea for a while because someone else thought your hair would be too nappy. There is no such thing as too nappy (to me). It's who you are! I'm glad you understand that nappy is beautiful. As for how long your transition will be, you can chop it all off or go the long route and transition for up to a year! Maybe even more. Transition using protective hair styles (that have minimal manipulation) like braids, twists, straw sets, etc. And just go throughout the site like you've been doing and read other posts. And dont forget to go to the pinned post called Frequently Asked Questions. It'll help out alot. Hope I helped!

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    Hey! Congrats on your decision to go natural! I agree with the last post you can BC now or take the long route like me. My plan is to get braids, straw sets and spirals until next September or December. If you look under the post titled straw sets, you'll find a link to a member's fotki that has step by step instructions on straw sets and pictures as well. As a matter of fact, I am going to make my first straw set attempt tomorrow night after church (PRAY for me!). Also Delushious(sp?) has a how to on twisting your hair with extensions on her fotki. That's also in the post labeled Transitioning hairstyles or something similar I think. I'm planning on attempting that as well.

    Now about future employment opportunities. I can imagine that as long as your hair is neat it'll be fine. I mean TWAs can be worn on the job, spirals, twists, and pretty much everything that doesnt appear as you just got out of bed. At my current job (I just started about 3 months ago) one of my coworkers was sporting corn rows in her hair (she's not natural, but cornrows can be used as a natural hairstyle) and you have others that wear locs. When you go for an interview try to wear an updo or something. It'll be fine!

    HTH

    ~HTH

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    Congrats, on your choice to go natural, I think if you are worried about the neatness of hair durning job hunts ect... I agree with the other two ladies. Maybe try some braids or twist for about a year. I am three months into my transistioning period. Have a look check out some of the things I've been doing. Oh and as far as your hair being to nappy, I also agree, NO SUCH THING. Your hair will look fine.
    http://sinamin.myphotoalbum.com/albums.php?

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    Congratulations on your decision to go natural and welcome to forum! READ, read , read, on this site as well as, in people's albums. You have come to the right place, so make yourself at home. You will soon be addicted to forum like the rest of us! ^_^

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    Thank you all for the replies. I hope I can remain patient enough to transition. I don't have enough new growth to BC without looking bald. This is a great site so far I'm really liking it, and I'm getting so many ideas.

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    I just typed a nice, long reply and received an SQL error when I tried to post. Here it is again in a nutshell:
    - I transitioned for a year wearing straw sets and kinky twist extensions. Check out my album.
    - Your nappy hair is beautiful. It does not need to be wavy, curly, etc. God made your hair and there's nothing wrong with it.
    - I have not received negative feedback about my hair during interviews, nor at work.
    - I have not received negative feedback from men. They are intrigued by my hair because it's different. They like to touch it.

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    Wow lizzies you have a great photo ablum there, and reassure me that there will be a whole lot that I can do with my hair.

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    I hope I've inspired you to continue on this journey. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions in the future.

    LIZZES

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    Nappiroots,

    You have found the right spot! I totally understand what you are going thru! I knew my friends/family would have responded like that too. I did tell my sister when I decided to go natural, but I didn't let anyone know when I BC'ed. I didn't want anyone trying to change my mind. You will find sooo much info here! If you haven't already, read Molly's articles on transitioning! Click here

    Stay encouraged!

    babygurl

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