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    Last night, while talking to my mother and our conversation turned to hair. I told how much new growth I had (since she knows I'm going natural) and I was about to get into an excited ramble about how soft and curly it is, but she immediately asked "Oh, is your hair a mess?" That cut me off right there and I said "No, it's not a mess. It's thick and curly." and she replied "So, it's a mess?" and I told her it's only a problem because I haven't cut it (meaning the bc) yet and I reminded her that I was going natural. She claims she is too, but she's still using a blow dryer everytime she washes it. She knows I stopped using my blow dryer and flat flaming hot tool of hair torture and I'm pretty sure she thinks my hair is a tangled mess.

    She was also the first person (followed by lots of others) to ask if I was going to get dreds as soon as I mentioned going natural. I think she forgot her afro days.

    However, my boyfriend ( ) is all for me going natural, after I explained my hair to him (he's white) and all the pros of going natural (swimming more often, less time to do it, less money spent on relaxers). Plus he's against using chemicals for anything. Even makeup (he's hidden my makeup bag from me more times than I can count). He's also perfectly happy with me doing a bc even though he loves long hair.

    Sorry this was so long, but I was wondering if anyone else has had problems with family but found support elsewhere

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    Yeah I pretty much have the exact same problem. My mom is DYING to put a chemical fire cream in my hair. She thinks it's a phase. And I've been asked the dreads question after telling people I'm going natural also. I guess it's just peoples natural instincts to say and think those things. Sometimes it hurts to hear the things your own mother has to say...I've got into too many arguments/discussions about how she must not think the real me is beautiful since she only seems to think I look presentable with straight hair..and on and on...just know that she says those things because she thinks it's best for you. My non-black best friend has also been the one who is most supportive of me, just like your boyfriend. Hmm..strange how that goes.

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    Mine wasn't because I was going natural, but because I BC'd. My husband doesn't like it. He told me again this week. But I have gotten so much support from everyone else around me at work and here on this site. I think now, since quite a few people have told him how much they like it, he is starting to soften up about it. When I first cut it all off, he wouldn't speak to me for three days. (And he was the one that told me to cut it.) And when he did talk, he didn't even look at me. Ah well... I still felt good.

    Everyone keeps asking me what I'm going to do when it grows out. And I tell them... "Nothing." I can't wait for the day I come in to work rockin' a BAA.

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    Tigress you had said that your boyfriend is supportive so I wouldnt try to persuade others {mom} to come around about your decesion.Sometimes it doesent matter what you say to try to persuade people. your man is supportive of your decesion so you should be happy with that.I have read countless treads about how their man is anything but supportive.Count yourself lucky and press on through your natural journey!!!

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    She was also the first person (followed by lots of...

    I have problems too!! Mostly with my mom. She is so against me going natural for some reason. I'm graduating college in May and she is so scared that if I go natural that I wont get a job. She also doesn't want me looking a mess and she doesn't want me to regret it. She has been dead set on me not going natural, but I figure that this is my hair and this is really what I want. I love my mom with all my heart, but she doesn't pay for me to get my hair done and she doesn't have to deal with it like I do.

    So, I have friends that support me and my boyfriend supports me (even though he doesn't understand it all), but I also feel that it's good to encourage yourself at the same time and confidence that you know this is the right decision for you.

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    Tigress,
    Don't let your family get to you. You'll always come across naysayers who will try to question you and discourage you at every opportunity. Family was my biggest problem also the first time I went natural. My mother did the same thing yours is doing and it drove me crazy. Eventually, I told her that her constant nagging about my "knotty head" was hurting my feelings. She stopped but my old school grandmother just wouldn't let up. I had to learn to hit that internal ignore button.

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    I thought it was just MY mom. I am Dominican and mom's response to me going natural was "What?! You think you have good hair or something? You're gonna look crazy!". She was genuinely angry but after explaining a billion times she stopped relaxing too coincidentally and after she saw how different her hair was she quit for good! I was like damn! After so much arguing. I dunno what it is about people of African descent. We are all raised to believe anything that defines you as "black" (wider nose, nappy hair, darker skin) is pretty much awful. Sad.

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