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    Today I was taking one of my coworkers with me to lunch, and someohow the topic got on hair, and she asked me if my hair grows. I began explaining my hair type to her, you know, the whole thing about it being fragile, breaking easily, etc. I also explained to her how when I comb my hair, it tears off unless I am extra gentle with it, and even then I run into problems. I proceeded to tell her how when she combs through HER hair, the comb just glides through. She is Equdorian, I believe, with STRAIGHT hair.

    On another note, I DO get frustrated with my hair length, and bornrows and braids irritate my scalp. Twists are not allowed, so that leaves me with the good ole fro, which I am getting tired of.

    Have you ever had anyone ask you this type of question? How did you respond?

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    Nah, no one's confronted me this way, but sometimes when someone asks me a question they KNOW the answer to, I follow with a question. In this case, I would've said, 'does your skin shed?' Yes, so why would hair be any different.

    I dunno. I feel that women, regardless of race, understand how important our hair is to each other, whether straight or kinky and that it's a very shaky ground to go over. She wasn't inquiring about your style choices she was asking you if your hair actually grows. What are you a corpse?

    Sorry, I am not in the mood today to bypass ignorance.

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    You should have just said "yes" and ended it there.

    There is no other way to answer that question and still stay cool, calm, and collected.

    I'm annoyed just thinking about it.

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    at the skin shedding question. I realized that she was asking out of ignorance, so I let it go. I was also laughing at my "Bornrows" typo. Thanks guys!!

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    I had a friend ask me after pulling my hair out straight and then letting it snap back how it can grow so long and look so short, I know the kind of person she is and I just answered it as intelligently as I could. I love answering peoples questions about my hair. Most people aren't being rude they are just interested and I am honored that they find me interesting enough to ask about...You handled your situation very well indeed...

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    Gilroygal, you sound like me always willing to 'spain things. But a part of me does kind of wonder what would make her think that your hair doesn't grow. When I see a white person with really short hair, I just assume they get a hair cut...not that their hair doesn't grow.

    Now on the other hand, maybe she has heard some black folks say their hair doesn't grow or won't grow. Many, many black folk say this and actually believe that their hair simply does not grow. That's pretty clear right here on forum. How many posts do we get on here from folks that say, "Help me...my hair doesn't grow!" How many times do folks have to post and say... "Yes it does grow, you're just not retaining length."

    Soooo, I think I'm with you, I alway err on the side of 'splaing. How indepth just depends on my mood and the situation.

    But no... don't think I've had anyone ask me that question before. ^_^

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    I've actually had someone ask me this question. With the shrinkage I have, i can see why. But come on, everyones hair grows. It might be slow like mine or breaking off because due to it not being protected, but it grows.

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    If it didn't grow wouldn't you be bald by now?

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    No one has ever asked me that. The same people who remember when I cut my permed ends off down to 5" of hair three years ago see the big HUGE afro puff that I wear and hair that falls to my shoulder blades when stretched. And they also see that their hair is the exact same length as it was or shorter when I cut mine then, so I don't get asked much.

    I usually get the "Woooow! Your hair is so long and thick it would be soooo pretty if you permed it."

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    I read somewhere that your hair and nails continue to grow even after you're dead. So even a corpse's hair grows... uke2: gross huh? lol

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    Wow! <_< No one has asked me this before because as Mezzie said they can tell that it is growing.

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    I'm not surprised at the question. Most people without our type of hair really know NOTHING about it!!

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    I hate that, like my hair is not pretty now. WTH

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    I'm not offended when someone ask me if my hair grows. Unless you are around when I wash it, my hair looks the same lenght it did 2 years ago. When I pull on one of my twist to show people the lenght people are suprised. Heck, I'm sometimes suprised by the shrinkage/lenght.

    I guess I decided (made a choice) not to take offense when people ask me or make comments about my hair...even when I know they are trying to be rude. It takes too much energy.

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    I think shrinkage is the issue behind her question. I haven't been asked this lately, but I recently told a friend of mine that my daughter's hair is growing nicely and it now has grown to the middle of her back. I forgot about my comment but quite some time later, I emailed her a picture of my daughter. She emailed back to say that her hair looks shorter and that she was surprised based on my comments regarding my daughter's hair length. I did let her know that it only appears shorter because of shrinkage. She and her 3 year old daughter both have perms so I'm not sure if she remembers shrinkage because she didn't seem to really understand. I don't think she even believed me. <_<
    I actually had a hairdresser to ask me in my perm days why my hair wasn't growing. I wasn't retaining length but neither of us could determine why it was breaking.
    So I think your coworker was just curious about your hair and you gave her a good answer. After all, everyone's hair grows, but as you described, having fragile hair that breaks easily does impact the amount of retained length.

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    No I have never been asked that, but this one lady told me " Your hair is so beautiful and thick, is it falling out?" I was so confused. Then she proceeded to tell me that she thought natural hair fell out of your scalp and that's why she isn't natural.

    Lucky me, I get all of the great people.

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    she proceeded to tell me that she thought natural hair fell out of your scalp and that's why she isn't natural.
    Wow - the ignorance is deep...

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    a girl on my cheerleading team actually asked me that- and i was so confused i said- "uh- not when it's wet like this"- i understood "grow" to mean "look any longer"
    and then i went off doing something else. and she left it at that
    finally- it clicked like 5 minutes later what she asked me i was like oooooh. yeah of course it does.
    so then i stretched some hair for her to show the shrinkage
    funny enough- one of my nappy-wannabees (i have a whole following haha) went on and on about how much my hair had grown (she was cornrowing it) to the point i had to calm her down (i was watching TV! hehe)

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    This is a myth.

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    That was so interesting.

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    Totally off topic ... but 3 year old daughter with a cfc???? _headshake:

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    Subtly, folks have been doing it to me lately as I am letting my hair grow out.
    Alot of white women with big eyes saying "your hair is getting LONG! Wow!" I just shake it off. I can see the same broke off looking permed hair walking over town just as they can. If I didnt know any better, I might think our hair can't grow well either.

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    Lucky me, I get all of the great people....

    Whoa!! I havent heard of that one before! But a girl told me one time that my hair grows really fast and I just said that it grew at the same speed as it did before.

    Thats just how I do -_-

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    A LOT of people ask me this. I think it's because of my shrinkage as well as the fact that my hair IS short. I think people assume that I don't cut my hair. I have had SEVERAL hair cuts over the last three years. Some people ask me how long I have been natural, and assume that after three years this is all that my hair will grow. Also, she has not known me that long, so maybe she just wondered.... I don't know. I don't get the feeling that she has been around many Black women, especially Black women with natural hair. It is quite curious, especially when what you see the most is Black women with straightened hair. I also think I'm in the minority on this board in terms of STRUGGLING to gain length. I have seen a few posts on the subject, but I see FAR more napturals on the board with lush, full heads of hair. When I was relaxed, I CONSTANTLY had breakage, and now I STILL have breakage, because when I handle my hair it just snaps off. I have tried many things. I just think that my hair is FRAGILE, no matter if I apply protein treatments or WHATEVER. So, each day I am trying to learn ways to be more gentle with it, and accomodate my scalp. It hasn't been an easy journey, but I still love my little head of hair nonetheless.

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    Now on the other hand, maybe she has heard some...

    so true, so true

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    On another note, I DO get frustrated with my hair...

    I've been asked this question plenty of times. I just tell them yes it grows just as fast as anyone else's it just curls and kinks up, giving the appearance that it grows slowly or not all, or breakage etc.... etc.
    Then, thinking I edumacated at least one nonblack person about black hair, the effort gets cancelled out by this high school black girl walking past me with this white girl saying: "see, my kind of hair takes atleast a year to grow an inch".

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