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  • "do You Miss Your Relaxed Hair?"

     

    Do people bring up your old hair or pics of your old hair, somehow believing that you will be distraught and miss it?

    Someone was looking at some old picture of me and then says, "What do you think when you see 'all that hair' you used to have?"

    Very nonchalantly, I say, "Nothing."

    Apparently this is just hard for her to believe because she then says, "Girl, whatever. You know you be like, 'I wish I had all my hair again!'"

    Again, very nonchalantly, yet slightly annoyed I say, "Uh, no." <_<

    I decided not to get into an argument about it because I would have said some evil things, and I don't like to be evil. But seriously, is it even logical? If I missed it that bad or wanted it that much, I'd have it. Either I wouldn't have cut it off or I would have been set up an appointment with a hairdresser.

    I hate when people reminisce my relaxed hair or ask me if I miss it. I try to brush if off, but what I really want to say is, "H*** naw I don't miss it, and looking at your busted, jacked up, thinned out excuse for a head of hair is making me want to jump for joy!"

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    Hmm, I don't think anyone has asked me if I missed it, but they sure do make it clear THEY miss is. LOL! After my rants & raves about brainwashing and European standards of beauty, the answer is obvious. They sigh over my old pics, though.

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    THEM: I can't believe you cut off all that pretty long hair.....(sigh)

    ME (in my best valley-girl happy voice): I can't believe I didn't do it sooner!
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    Well, at the rate my hair has been growing, I'll be right back where I started in no time, but this time it will be strong & healthy.

    THEM:

    ME:

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    ME (in my best valley-girl happy voice): I can't believe...

    LOL...love this!

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    Not for one moment have I missed the stringy, lifeless mess that I used to call my hair. In fact I have developed an aversion to rlxd hair and find it hard to compliment even the ones that are relatively well taken care of.

    I walk past salons now and the smell of the chemicals and flaming hot tools of torture being applied to hair turns my stomach.

    I MY HAIR!

    The only person that misses the mess is my husband ...but he's starting to see things my way, he's just a little slow on the come up!

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    I was asked that question many of times and although I was upset on each occasion I never rise to their level. However, I would admit this though there are days that I have missed my hair Re.laxed, but thats when my hairs are misbehaving. I wudnt tell them that though. Only among my nappy family.

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    I think my mom misses my permed hair, and every now and then I find myself starring at old pictures of myself, not because I miss my old hair, because like the OP said, if I wanted it that badly, I would have never let it go, or I would have a perm now, but because it is weird to see for some reason. It feels like so long ago, even though it hasn't been that long. Anyway, my mom made a point of saying she liked my hair yesterday - aww she is tring .

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    My HS friend just asked me this. I replied by asking her if she missed being "skinny." Strangely, she didn't continue the conversation. *shrugs*

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    I can second Discodumpling! I feel like I've been enlightened! When I walk by salons, I too get sick and feel sorry for them. What they don't realize is that they don't know why they're obsessed with their hair! It's sad! For someone to say, "I know you miss ALL THAT HAIR!" I'd say I still have ALL THAT HAIR! It makes me so mad that it's gotta be relaxed to be long or even just beautiful! It's definitely an ignorance on their part. Me? I didn't even save that mess I called hair! When my mom went natural the first time, she saved her hair. I don't miss seeing hair all over the place when I vacuum or clean and I certainly don't miss paying all that money for relaxers, hair styles, washes every week or every 2 weeks...and for what?! I am not my hair but my hair is me someone said, Amen! My hair says that I care more about me than about people and what they think and what they think about me!

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    I replied by asking her if she missed being "skinny."
    Oooooooh... ouch.

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    Naw I don't miss shelling all that cash & time every week

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    No I don't miss my relaxed strands of curless hair.

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    DAYUM. Majestic went for the jugular!

    Majestic
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    Permie
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    I'm not even gonna lie sometimes I do miss it. Usually when I see people with fresh relaxed hair styles like updos. The girl at work came in with one one day and it was sooooo pretty. Everytime I turn around shes coming in with a new do and new color and her hair is staying the same length. But that style that day made me miss my hair. It looked like something my old stylist would have done for me in HS.

    But I got over it with the quickness... My hair was thin and stayed the same length for the past 3 or 4 years. That's not cool. I've grown that much hair all over again in the year that has passed since my last chemical fire cream. Going natural was the best thing I ever did for my hair.

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    I've been natural for so long that most people don't even remember me with a perm. I also have little pictures of me with my perm hair. Trust me when I say this I do not miss any perm in my hair. I LLLLLOOOOVVVVEE MY HAIR

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    I look at old pictures of myself and think i look weird with long str8, plastic looking shiny hair. I just can't wait til my hair is bigger

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    Do people bring up your old hair or pics of your old hair, somehow believing that you will be distraught and miss it? No one has done this or asked me if I missed my relaxed hair (which I absolutely do NOT miss). People have said they liked my hair àƒ¢â‚¬à…better when it was longeràƒ¢â‚¬à‚ and I simply tell them that àƒ¢â‚¬à…itàƒ¢â‚¬â„¢ll be long again but this time I wonàƒ¢â‚¬â„¢t have to get a chemical burn on my scalp every month.àƒ¢â‚¬à‚

    Quote:My HS friend just asked me this. I...

    I gotta use this one!

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    ointlaugh:

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    there's nothing more satisfying to me than running my fingertips through the wavy tightly curled roots of my hair and pulling on my twists and watching them bounce back.

    can you do that with the chemical fire? HECK NAW!!!!!

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    My passport photo is one of me with relaxed hair. My hair looks good ... it is healthy, shiny and was bouncy. I look at photos and just realize I have evolved. No, I do not miss my hair being relaxed.

    I do appreciate hair of all styles and types ... as long as it is healthy. there are plenty of healthy heads of relaxed hair, dyed hair and natural. I love it all. I think it is great that we have the freedom to choose ...

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    Nobody has asked me that yet ! After I did my BC four years ago.. comments from family was that" oh you'll be going back to a chemical fire cream again" well THEY are still waiting and will be.. cause I refuse to give up my saturdays to the salon not to mention the expenses of it all.

    I am happy to embrace my natural

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    I do not miss that drano mess at all. I haven't had anyone ask me that question but I did have a triick ask me when am I going to do something with my hair and I replied as soon as you get a pretty face! Need I say more!!!! Some people make you go there!!!!

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    no dont miss straight .i was a pain trying to keep straight.i got a wig if i needs straighter hair for the day

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    Nobody asks me that because I have way more hair now than I did during the years that I permed. So, I really have nothing to miss.

    The only thing that ever gets to me is when I see a person with a bob. The bob has always been my most favorite hairstyle of all time, and whenever I see someone with a super straight chin length bob, whether the person is white, black, or in between, I gawk at and drool over their hair. When I had a perm, I got my hair cut into a chin length bob, but it did not fit my face at all ( I have a long thin face).

    That was totally off topic, sorry.

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    I am always sure to let people know that going natural was a choice for me. i was not bald or suffering from any crack related issues. I was just tired of taking the curl out of my hair just to try to put it back in. How stupid was that and damn it was expensive.

    It was a choice not a sentence, not a last resort. So stop acting like I have been marched to the electric chair and am awaiting the jolt just because I have natural hair. My life is not over, I will find a man, I will get a job and I will be able to look as fly, acutually more fly than I did crack out.

    Wheeewww I got mad just recounting this response. It is so automatic now that I never feel any emotion I just give this speach everytime.

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    LOVE IT!!!!

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    I've been natural for so long, I don't even have any pictures of myself with a r.elaxer... But to answer the question HELL NO I don't miss r.elaxer... I Love my fro!! it doesn't even compare!

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    Sometimes. But I'm sure that's because my hair is out of shape. It's dry and unhealthy and frustrating right now. When I see a beautiful healthy puff or lush twists, I think there're no comparison to relaxed hair. The only real thing I miss about relaxed hair is the spiral set and flat twist combination that I used to get done after a touch-up at the salon, but I guess with some length that too is possible on thick twists or loose natural hair.

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    I've had that happen to me where people would show old pictures of me with permed hair or something more family members than anybody else. I never went through a period of missing permed hair based on the fact that during that time I felt like I had to follow what other people believed was beautiful for them and society. I felt trapped with permed hair, like playing a role to fit in with other people's expectations not my reality. I know that I respect myself more a s anatural woman than with a perm. I set my own expectations and I found it liberating after my first big chop. I mean my mother to this day still asks when am I going to straighten my hair. I've told her for the past seven years that it was not going to happen and she won't see my bob again. My parents are sweet and would like to keep me close as they remember but I am fighting a revolution and being loced completes the person that I am today.

    Peace,
    Rasta

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    **flatline**Quote:It was a choice not a sentence, not a last...

    Amen! Now rub your ears and say "woosah..."

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