Did she reeeeally just say that! And that! And THAT!!

I guess I do not see the big deal about her statements. I know as naturals we can be overly sensitive to permies statements that they say out of ignorance, but these comments sound like things I said before I went natural (except for the SAHM statement). I really think that non naturals don't mean to offend with their curiosity and foot in mouth comments, I just think they are trying to wrap their minds around going without a perm.

I guess I do not see the big deal about...

they are backhanded compliments which really are passive aggressive insults in disguise.regardless of whether or not they mean it to be insulting it still is.

plus, if someone accidentally stands on your foot are you seriously not going to tell them to get the heck off your foot just because they didn't do it on purpose?

Quote:I guess thats the cool thing about being a SAHM...

= your natural hair doesn't look good enough to leave the house with

the third one isn't really an insult, but when combined with the first 2 comments would lead me to believe this girl was dropped on her head several times as a child.

I never knew people thought not perming will give you a headache! What?! I guess before relaxers everyone walked around in constant pain!

I never knew people thought not perming will give you...

I never knew this either. I never had any headaches myself nor can I recall anyone ever mentioning this to me. I find this odd.

the pain that you all were feeling is normal and...

Ah, i see. That makes sense. I had asked my stylist many times over the years why my scalp got so sore close to touch up time and I can't recall her ever giving me a straight answer. I wonder if she even knew...

The experience of sitting in a salon for hours would give me a headache. So yeah, my head would hurt for the full hour that I'd sit waiting for the stylist to actually get to me. Yuck, so glad those days are over.

And as for the OP, funny how quickly we remember why we "lost touch" with someone in the first place.

Gotta be honest - The SAHM comment is the one that would have made me double backslap her. GIFSoup

She's definitely a special specie of woman!