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    Have you ever been in denial about an illness, or had to deal w/ someone who was in denial? How did it turn out? ;-)

    TIA...

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    This denial is in relation to the possibility of a sickness...Me and three of my friends decided to all go to the clinic to get FREE hiv testing. We thought it was a good idea because all of us had made some irresponsible decisions at some point and we agreed that it was important to know our status. plus, with us all going together, it wouldn't be so scary. Anyway, with this clinic you had to come back two weeks from the testing date to get your results. We all agree to go and get our results together. Well, two weeks later I find myself sitting alone in the waiting room to get my results. After I got them I called my friends up to see why they didn't show up. All of them made up some EXCUSE of why they didn't come. About a month later, i asked them again if they ever went to get their results (cause you can go back anytime). They all said no, I said why? Their responses were that they were too afraid, and they'd rather not know at all then to find out that it came back positive. To me, not only is that denial about a potentially life-threateneing sickness, but it is selfish to those that they may become intimate with in the future. I told all them off, there was no need in me being nice about this matter. And if you or someone you know is in denial about a potentially serious illness, he/she really needs to pray about it and work up enough courage to see a doctor.

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    i'm healthy as a horse, but i don't like to go to the doctor because they might tell me i'm not and i might get sick and die. so i guess i could be in denial. most of the folks i'm close to are pretty healthy as well, so i haven't really had to deal with being in denial about physical health issues.

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    As for me...look up hypochondriac and you'll see my name....

    A friend of mine was seriously depressed for a couple months and she refused to seek help or take the meds, yet she was going to the doc every week...... I was soooo upset at her cause I had to deal with it everyday and it was taking a toll on me.... I started ignoring her...when she wasnt gettting anymore sympathy she just pulled herself together and got help.....

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    i'm with JustKei: i tend to think i have everything... But no denial at this point about any illness.

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    MuthaErth - I am with you girl. I hate the doctor because they always jack me up. I mean I feel fine going in and come out with something to worry about.

    Actually I am healthy as a horse too. Just don't know how long it going to last.

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    My mother had breast cancer when I was 9 years old and had to have her breast removed, I found out from her years later that she found the lump like a year before going to the doctorbecause she was scared that she was gonna die because her sister died from cancer when she was younger after going to the doctor. I understood her fear but I still felt like if she had went when she found the lump they may not have had to remove her breast. My mother is like a lot of older people who feel like if it isn't bothering me i'm not gonna bother it and ain't no doctor gone be cuttin on me and things of that nature. Me on the other hand if I see anything on my body that I didn't see before i'm at the doctor like what's that.

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    Alright. I'll admit it. I was in denial about having fibroids for 8 years. My motto: "Ignore them and they'll go away." So I didn't do all that I could to prevent them from growing (holistic remedies and dietary changes) or taking care of them (surgically) when they were small. I was scared of surgery and its repercussions (mom and grandmom both had hysterectomies 45 & 35 because of them). Next thing you know, they are the size of a 20-week pregnancy and I'm presented with one "option": a hysterectomy at 30. Luckily I stuck to my guns and talked them out of it, but I was left with the old-school cesaerean incision (navel to nether parts) instead of the discreet bikini-line one.

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    I think living in denial when it comes to your health is a very selfish act. Early detection (it you are tested positive for anything) is the key in living longer. Instead, some will not get complete physicals on a regular basis and then find themselves at a state where its too late to do something about it. It's bad for you, but even worse for your family who has to take care of you.

    A year ago, I had a complete exam and my physician suggested that I get a mammogram. I thought that at 37, I was too young and should wait until I'm 40. She said women should start at age 35. So I had one scheduled. Less than a week later, I got a call to have another one done by a breast specialist because it was borderline abnormal. The earliest I could get it done was a week and a half later. I was scared, my husband even moreso, but we went. The specialist said it wasn't anything to worry about, but to have another in 6 months. This time I went alone (my husband would have driven me crazy if he went). All was fine and I don't have to go again for another year. Mentally, I was prepared to have a mastectomy (or double) if necessary. And too, I was ready to die if that were the will of God.

    I say this to say, that the earlier you come to terms with something, the more control you have in fighting/beating it. Your health is not the thing to pull the "bury your head in the sand" routine.

    And the worst you could hear is the doctor say, "It would have been prevented had we detected it early."

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    Thanks for your responses ladies. I'm dealing w/ a situation w/ a friend of mine and short of knocking her out and dragging her to the doctor I'm not sure what to do.

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    I denied my illness for months. I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arithritis in 1999. You could have knocked me over with a feather when they told me RA--I actually thought that I was going crazy......

    Most of the time denial is the response to what we fear we may hear.......prayer and persistant pestering may do the trick.

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    Keep at your friend. Sometimes we need someone on our case because we don't see things for what they really are.

    My friends asked me if I was okay for months and I would always say yes, even though I was terribly depressed. I had one friend who would come around every so often and really try to break through my "wall". Eventually she succeeded, and I'm glad. She was just what I needed to realize what was really going on.

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