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    Does anyone here cut...or know someone who does? Or in fact, not just cutting....any form of self injury. I guess like ED's it's considered not a "black" thing...but I would like to know if there is anyone here who goes through it...pm me if you wish.
    CloudZ.

    www.cloudyface.myphotoalbum.com

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    Sometimes EDs and self injury go hand in hand. I never cut, but when I was younger, I would wear a rubberband around my wrist and pop myself if I had "bad" thoughts or if I felt inadequate. Dark times.

    PM me anytime if you want to. I hope you feel better.

    ~em

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    I'm black and I self-injure. I have for as long as I can remember. Sending PM.

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    Glad to know I'm not the only one I used to and sometimes it just comes back out of no where and I wake up feeling like I want to top myself.

    Is there a way to just 'grow' out of it or do you have to overcome whatever made do it in the first place, because I thought I'd stopped and I've done the whole therapy thing and all but the thoughts sitll come back once in a while. (Sorry to hijack the thread)

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    I don't think it's something you can ever grow out of. Like an ED, it sticks with you. It's always something that you have to fight. I found myself doing it again recently, and I realised that I cannot live like this anymore. I never did get any counselling...I just talk to friends who care. Currently I'm trying to improve on my spiritual life. I figure nothing else has helped me to stop before so...I'll give this a go.
    I don't know about overcoming either...but I guess that's what has to be done. I do it because I can't deal with basic emotions..which is kinda weird...Anything...anger, disappointment,...anything negative...I "get rid " of them through physical pain...But I truly am trying to stop.

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    I wish all of you the best. Please do seek help and counseling if you can. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone... while I haven't dealt with cutting or ED, counseling and therapy hlepd a lot with depression and anxiety.

    I wish I had just done it sooner.

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    I don't know about overcoming either...but I guess that's what...

    Thanx for your response, good luck with trying to become more spiritual I reckon it could really help counscelling is only as good as you make it infact it may not even help at all, I hope you get through it.

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    I've never cut, but I understand it very well. Even when I was younger and would see it like on talk shows and documentaries, it made sense to me. the "getting the pain" out aspect especially, which is what a lot of people seem to cut for. I too wish you all the best. We all have our struggles- I've been struggling with depression for about 3,4 years now, and luckily I discovered poetry as my outlet to getting my pains out, etc. WHen you are under stress you find ways to relieve it, be they positive or netagive. sometimes what's disturbing or hurting you so bad is so intangible yet so painful that you need a physical manifestation of it to reassure yourself you have some control- this is why cutting especially is so reassuring and is often resorted to:
    1. you are causing yourself physical pain and you, at least for that moment focus on the pain and not what's bothering you

    2. Seeing blood leave your body is a physical manifestation of pain leaving, and though it isn't what's bothering you being confronted, it is comforting to trick yourself into thinking that

    3. it becomes like a ritual in some cases. Sort of like OCD I imagine, where you have to do certain things (counting, touching every thing, etc) to reassure yourself that everything is right.

    4. It could be an adrenaline rush. Some thing to keep you in touch with reality ironically. If you can still bleed/feel pain, then you are still here.

    Those are reasons why I have known ppl to cut and or why I think they would. I've never had a close friend or anything cut themselves but I myself have thought about it, never done it and probably never will. I hope you all have support in your lives to help you find healthier ways to deal with your troubles. IF any of you wish, you may PM me.

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    I guess you can say I've done a few acts of self mutilation, minor acts. Like popping wrist bands against my skin.

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    never cut. i completely understand the urge and desire. i have been very tempted to and talked to a friend about it who helped me not do it. but i had for the longest a bad habit of pinching myself extremely hard and for long periods of time until it bruised. i would do it in non-visible places and it helped me release.. i havent done it for a long time.

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    Wow Ladytmarie you're so understanding because most people who've never experienced think it's irrational or silly, even I have to admit before I ever did it I didn't undertsand it.

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    I'm too much of a wuss to cut, so I just scratch (dig my nails into my skin until I make welts or marks). For me it's a feeling of needing something else to concentrate on when I start feeling crazy like I need to get out of somewhere or I'll lose it. I also like the marks I see on my arms because they somehow make the pain more real by it being visible. It's like instant validation.

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    I have never cut, but I had a family member who did and worked with several young teens who did. My family member finally stopped after pursuing a relationship with God and talking to caring family about it. I will be praying for each of you.

    http://www.teenhealthcentre.com/articles/p...rticle_35.shtml

    Don't know how to post a link, so maybe you can copy & paste. It looks helpful.

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    i used to cut, throughout middle and high school, and the begining of college, so i completely understand what you are talking about. i had to feel a certain way to cut myself, but once i got away from the things that made me feel like i needed to cut myself, i stopped.

    cloudz, you have a wonderful album btw. you should link it in your signature!! i love your twists.

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    Ms_Ebony: Thanks. I'm feeling stronger these days, and I will pray for you all who suffer from it too.

    ladytmarie: I don't even know what to say. It's like you fished the issues out of this place that I could never get too. lol...that's the best I can do. Your understanding actually helps me understand myself. THANK YOU.

    Liberty and Issa: That's how I begun. I'd dig into my flesh with my nails, enjoying every minute of the pain as it blocked out whatever stupid thing I did...or emotion that I didn't want to feel. Please be careful with that...self injury is self injury...

    Lovelocks: thanks for the site...I'm heading there now.

    and giggleblue the thing is almost everything that I do makes me want to cut...I have serious perfectionist issues...I'm always mentally beating up myself for mistakes...But at least I know why I do it, and I KNOW I want to stop...so that's a start for me. I'm glad you stopped...Thanks for the compliment! I do love my twisities... But how do I add the link to my signature?...what's my signature...?

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