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    do i have defective xx chromosomes? my coworker regularly cries at work when she gets stressed or overwhelmed. I dont get it because she brings it on to herself and wits til the last minute to ask for help.

    anyway so today has been pretty bad for her. So she busted out in tears when another coworker in another state called her. So knowing that I sit next to her, this 3rd person called and asked me to check on her. Which I didnt because I'm used to this.

    My other coworkers also went over to her desk to offer some comfort or whatever. Seeing people cry makes me uncomfortable because I never know what to say. And definitely when I see the same person do it over and over i lose patience

    Is there something wrong with me? Does anyone else think it strange when people cry at work regularly?

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    Girl dont feel bad. Its her fault that she is waiting to the last minute to get her required work done and then starts getting stressed. She could be doing it for attention knowing that people are going to come comfort her.

    I know people go thru things in their personal life also that can stress u out. I ama very sensitive person myself, but i know when not to show my emotions. My mom always said "Leave your personal problems at home, and your work problems at the job. Never let them mix." To me that is showing her boss that she is not good working under pressure. I wouldnt want to have an employee like if im running a business that cries all the time _headshake:

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    nothing strange about crying at work. you can't help when you will be overcome with emotion. it just may be a coincidence that she's at work cuz we spend so much of our day at work (when we are awake). she may have mental or emotional issues. she may be on meds that make her act like that

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    I know people go thru things in their personal life...

    ^^^I agree with this . I am a sensitive person myself which I feel is a positive quality, better to be sensitive rather that to be one of these folks that say and do anything to others and then look at them like they got a problem , but that said there is a thing of being overly sensitive.

    Someone that cries so much at work that they have made others insensitive to them has a problem. I,m sure I have cried a time or 2 at work not at the same job , it can happen to the best of us but all the time shows a weakness somewhere. I would be surprised if this person ever gets a promotion or anything cause she's showing the higher ups she can't handle it. Don't feel bad when she starts the waterworks I would excuse myself. If I really cared about her maybe at a calmer time I would tell her that I care but her behavior is really unprofessional .

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    you know what - you never know what people are going thru
    before this lady came to work - her husband or s.o. may have beat the mess out of her - you never know what's going on behind the scenes and you never know what people are going thru or she could just be a highly emotional persn. either way like someone else said - if she cries and it bothers you i would go away from her

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    I think it's unprofessional. I have cried a couple of times at work due to family and personal life, but NOBODY was around to see it. I went to the bathroom and released when nobody else was there. My coworkers didnt have a clue that I was having personal problems and I wanted to keep it that way.

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    I've cried at work twice. Once on 9/11 when I didnt know what the hell was going on and I was scared. The next time was in the aftermath of hurricane Katrina when I didnt know if the majority of my extended family (who live in New Orleans) were alive and safe or dead.

    I'm not bother by people who cry at work for stress and stuff but for myself I hate for people to think that work is affecting me. It makes me feel like they have found a weakness that they may exploit to their advantage.

    Tryce

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    I've cried several times at work. Two times that stick out in my mind was when a manager yelled at me when I was super-stressed (this was back when I was a waitress) and when me and my boyfriend broke up (just a couple of months ago.)
    I hate it when you have a habitual crier at work. It always seems so unprofessional, and distracting to your coworkers. I genuinely believe some people enjoy the attention they get from being all red-faced and pouty at work. I, for one, cannot stand to have people observe me crying. If I cry, I get so embarassed.

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    the day ended OK. i helped her get a little bit more organized. we have some alpha b***** who work in the office out of state and they tend to push stuff off on people who cant say no. she cant say no and it seems the thre alphas were wanting all their stuff NOW. anyway now i sort of feel a little bad for being so about it. some people just dont know how to say no and even though i find that annoying, i find bullies and people who take advantage of that even more annoying :Angry:

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    Girl back in my 20s when I had anxiety attacks really bad, I would cry at work cause I couldn't focus or concentrate so that made me feel incomptent and like I was an idiot. But I would go to the bathroom and cry cause I was too embarrased to cry in front of others.

    I think the only other time I cried was last year when I was super angry at work. I cry when Im angry, go figure, but I was so hurt and mad I just started balling. My coworkers and I were really cool so they took me to the bathroom so I could get my rage together

    She may be overly sensitive or dealing with some anxiety issues herself that she may need to work on.

    before this lady came to work - her husband or...

    You know sis, you are so right. Galaxy, have you ever sat down and asked her if anything was wrong? Like Ive noticed you cry a lot when you get stressed out and Im worried about you, is everything okay? Something to that effect just to see whats going on with her. Cause she is right, who knows what she may be dealing with outside of work.

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    GG ,I cant stand people that cry for crap like that ,sorry I might not be very sensitive but there is a gurl that always cry about her life situation and how bad she want to leave her job and she doesnt have a man blablablah....I told her " how about CHANGING your situation instead of crying about it .I m a go getter I cant stand people who wont do nothing to change situations that bother them..

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    i did on another occassion and she just said it was from stress. i tend to believe her because she gets alot of stuff pushed on her at work, plus she doesnt take a lunch (works through it) and regularly logs on from home after her 2 year goes to bed. it's not odd for me to get emails from her that are timed at 11 pm
    also we've just heard that they are going to reimburse 20% of gym fees (yayy! visualising $$ works ) so i'm tryung to convince her to go to the gym i do that's 2 blocks away for lunch

    regina: we have a supplier that we work with all the time and she's complained a few times that i've made her cry and she's had to leave work early because of it. i can honestly say none of the emails or phone calls we've had have been like that. even my superviser read an email and said that it seemed fine to him. girl come to find out when i met her in person a few months ago, she's an actress. she lives in greece and herfavorite plays are tragedies ^_^ seems to me like she was just pulling out the water works to leave early. the funny thing is now i have a nickname at work: the velvet hammer

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    also we've just heard that they are going to reimburse...

    Okay then she clearly has some issues she needs to address. She is one that can't handle stress well, which happens sometimes and she also may have some anxiety issues cause at home she is still thinking about work and probably at work she is thinking about home, just worrying all the time, I used to be there. Good idea trying to convince her to join the gym with you. Hey at least you tried. You can bring the horse to water, but she got to want to take the sip!

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    I have had my moments but I go somewhere and get my bearings. It is one thing to be overwhelmed and stressed but crying may represent some other issues she may be going through or she just doesn't know how to handle stress well! As a nurse I see people cry all the time but no matter it is still sad because we are human!

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    Maybe I'm a Hard-Azz, but crying? Could she be looking for attention? And the ones that are dumping work on her at the last minute are doing it because they know they can get away with it because she puts up with it. Tell girlfriend to get a backbone because if she passes out from stress, or loses her job, the seat surely will be filled with a replacement.

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    Some people are just more emotional than others. I wouldn't hold it against them.

    I cry at everything, but I don;t think i've ever let myself do it at work. I wait till lunch and cry in the car. When I was in school, I'd cry in the bathroom at least once a week but I had (have) serious anxiety issues.

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    anyway so today has been pretty bad for her. So...

    I don't mean to sounds harsh, but sounds like she's got some issues that needs to be addressed. I'm somewhat like you, seeing some cry on a daily basis could get very old and I would just ignore her. There is this women on my job that does that also, but she is so full of drama that I think she just does her crying and drama to seek attention. <_< I just ignore her also. I wish she hurry up and retire. :Angry:

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    Is there anyone in HR who might be able to help her out? A company counselor of sorts? What's her boss doing to help her out, if anything? There's only so much co-workers can do or should do IMO.

    I once cried when I heard that one of my co-workers died, because she and I had become good friends...but I still did it in private. Other than that, I don't think I've ever cried at work.

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    you know what people need to realise that work is work and home is home, people at work are not your best buddies they are you colleges, it bugs me when co-wrkers try to get to firendly with me, dont got me wrong i go for a drink after work on the odd occasions but i really dont want to hear all your life story and your woes, i work with people who have issues it is really annoying when your staff team start talking about there issues aswell.

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    our company is too small for an hr (40 people) plus our management is way too passive aggressive. wat they do is issue a general email or have a company wide brainstorm meeting or whatever to further tell us how important it is to be considerate of our coworkers' feelings and crap like that. of course it doesnt solve anything because they should just take the biyatches aside and do the deniro fingers pointing to the eys thing.

    anyway today i was privy to an email i shouldnt have seen (they dont call me scoops for nothing )about the crying coworker. basically this other person was trying to get her in trouble. i sort of kind of brought it up to our resource manager while we were leaving for te day. i did not mentioning the email just expressing concern over what i noticed. anyway he's goign to mention something to them tomorrow

    but let's face it, jobs are like relationships, once you set yourself up in a doormat role it's hard to turn around years later and be like noway becaus ethe other party wont take you seriously.

    it;s funny because just about everywhere i've worked there has been an office b****. you know like that staple guy from office space. all i can say is mothers teach your daughters to say NO and mean it

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    ive gone to the bathroom a couple of times to release some anger and tears. i think its unproffessional also.

    plus i dont want people to think that im weaker than i come off as. i dont ever want to be the push over or the one that people take advantage of at work ssoo i keep a stone cold facade 24/7

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    There was a 3 month period when I lived in Detroit and spontaneously cried at least 3 times a day. Isn't that crazy? My SO was living nearby in Ohio temporarily and returned to DC. But of course I didn't let anyone see me.

    I cried at work, not boo hooed but shortly sobed when I thought my patient was going to die. We had just removed her from this special type of machine and her oxygen wasn't good but we couldn't put her back on the machine. We were manually giving her oxygen but her saturation level wasn't coming up and I thought she was going to die. She was 9 days old and this was the parent's first child. Luckily I didn't cry in front of any of my team members, I tried to fight back the tears but couldn't help it this time. I still regret it because the ICU fellows and attending later asked if I was OK, kinda of embarrassing. But hey we're all human.

    As for white people crying at work, for some reason black women always seemed stronger to me than white women. I feel like black women don't easily get offended and we handle stress better, you know the whole "Just do the damn thing" motto. Some how white women don't grow up with those coping skills.

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    Does anyone else think it strange when people cry at work regularly?
    I used to excuse myself and go into my office or the ladies room to cry over patients when I first started volunteering in health services, but never ever ever broke down in front of colleagues or clients.

    I'm not a crybaby and hardly a wimp but, by nature, I've always been an empath. It took some time but I learned how to stay true to my nature yet keep it together no matter what in order to be a biatch of an advocate for my clients.

    I think playing the damsel and boo-hooing at the drop of a hat in front of co-workers to get over and/or have people feel sorry for you cuz 'I'm streeeeeessed!, 'I've got too much woooork!' or 'The Vice President yelled at meeeee!" etc. etc. -- is mad weak and tired!

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    I think the reason is some of us spend more time at work than at home. I work 12 hour shifts and I can see why people tend to air out their laundry clean or dirty. I just say if you dont want your business out there dont say anything to anyone!!!! :P

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