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  • Angie Davis in the house!...should i take this as a complement??

     

    this is usually something that i get from older men or just guys in general ( but a few ladies do it to). when ever i enter a place or exit, i get the same comment/ s.."we got Angie Davis in the house!" or "power to the people" or "you look like Jimi Hendrix and Yoko (shes a Japanese lady who dating and possibly married John Lennon from the Beatles) had a love child".

    now im not sure if i should take offense or be flattered that im even being used in the same sentence as such a person as Angela Davis. either way im annoyed. why does my hair have to be a discussion or a treated like a gimmick?? im not trying to make a statement..i just dont want to straighten my hair!

    has anyone else gone through this??? even if you havent, id like hear some of you guy's thoguhts..

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    If you were to do a search you'd find threads on this topic 10 times over. That said, I think it's meant to flatter, but I certainly know what you mean. Because you're getting these comparisons said to you over-and-over again and it's obviously getting old.

    If it's coming from the same people, you might be able to tell them to cut it out. If it's just random people here and there, I think you're going to have to just roll with it and let it go cause you can't spend your life reacting to these comparisons. You'd end up bursting a blood vessel or something.

    There are truely bigger things to stress about and this certainly ain't one of 'em.

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    I live by the philosophy that "Words have no meaning until we give it meaning." the comparison is a compliment it you think of it as such. Angella Davis and Jimi Hendrix were accomplished in their fields; I see no insult in being compared to them.

    But this is your subjective experience. Only you can determine if you should take offense of be flattered.

    As an aside, I am natural and I have a reaction when I see a large afro. I am absolutely fascinated by Afros (on any race/ethnicity) in a way that I have never been fascinated with straight or long hair.
    I believe that afros evokes feelings in most people, it is nothing something you can see and be neutral about.
    I know that some will say that it shouldn't be the case, but the reality is, it is.

    Personally, I tend to smile and be pretty even keel about people even when I think they are sprouting nonsense. I don’t let others take up space in my head.

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    This is Angela Davis, right?:

    Anyway, it depends on intent, I guess.

    Could be worse, you know. You could be compared to an ugly man or a slave.

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    I live by the philosophy that "Words have no meaning until we give it meaning." the comparison is a compliment it you think of it as such. Angella Davis and Jimi Hendrix were accomplished in their fields; I see no insult in being compared to them.

    But this is your subjective experience. Only you can determine if you should take offense of be flattered.

    As an aside, I am natural and I have a reaction when I see a large afro. I am absolutely fascinated by Afros (on any race/ethnicity) in a way that I have never been fascinated with straight or long hair.
    I believe that afros evokes feelings in most people, it is nothing something you can see and be neutral about.
    I know that some will say that it shouldn't be the case, but the reality is, it is.

    Personally, I tend to smile and be pretty even keel about people even when I think they are sprouting nonsense. I dont let others take up space in my head.

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    Angela Davis was a positive figure in the fight for civil rights and she was known for her BAA. People are remembering her hair and see that in your hair. How is that a bad thing?

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    Angela Davis was a positive figure in the fight for...

    because sometimes its said jokingly and i hear it ALL THE TIME. and even if they dnt mention her specifically, it is assumed that im some type of activist just because of my hair. its like being a girl whos really tall and evryone assume she plays basketball or models. u cn tell when things r a compliment and when some1 is making a joke. some things r unnecessary.

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    Just remember what Outremount wrote. The only power these words have is the power you give it. You can give them positive power and take it as a compliment or you can give them negative power, take it as a dis and get upset. It's your choice.

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    I live by the philosophy that "Words have no meaning until we give it meaning." the comparison is a compliment it you think of it as such. Angella Davis and Jimi Hendrix were accomplished in their fields; I see no insult in being compared to them.

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    Oooo She's pretty and so are you....there you have it.

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    I've only had it said to me once and I did take it as a compliment even though it was said jokingly. I can see how it can get annoying when people make assumptions. I've always felt like it was the product of mental laziness and it irks me on a bad day. However, I still try to take things in the spirit in which they were said. Meaning, if someone says something to me in an aggressive or obnoxious manner they might get but if they make a comment in all innocence or without malice I can let it go...Although I am a little tired of being called "Earth Mother" really now?

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    Oooo She's pretty and so are you....there you have it....

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    I would take it as a huge compliment..Angie Davis is AWESOME Like most nappies, I usually get 'Jill Scott' (not so much now since she permed lol) but I took that as a compliment also. She's gorgeous and mad talented! Thaaank yoou! Recently, and older dude I work with told me with my hair natural, I reminded him of.... Roberta Flack? Okaaayyy... Thaaaank yooouu... She's awesome too lol... Just don't call me Don King or something crazy like that.

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    Well for me I'm always called Erykah Badu. Not only because of my natural hair but for my hair wraps and scarves (I'm a Muslim). I take it as compliment. But it does get repetitive.

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    Disarm the percieved insult, say thank you and strutt your stuff.

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    Disarm the percieved insult, say thank you and strutt your...

    ^^^^^^^This.

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    Personally, I tend to smile and be pretty even keel...

    O I really, really like this.

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    Compliment all the way!!! Did you see her fierce BAA?!?!?

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    Slightly OT: I love how you felt the need to explain who Yoko Ono was...I'm pretty sure lots of youngsters on here don't know...

    Anyway, most people are very limited in their thinking but most of the time they can't help it. Natural hair is still a novelty in most parts of the States outside of NYC and for most folks certain images automatically come into play. They don't mean to offend (usually) so in those cases just take a deep breath and let it go.

    Honestly this (being called out of my name because of my hairstyle) has RARELY happened to me and I've been natural for frickin EVER. One time when I had locs I was called Whoopi Goldberg by a (black male) TSA agent and he was quick to apologize when he saw the look on my face. Now I'm a HUGE fan of Whoopi's -- she has an I-don't-give-a-f*** attitude I've long admired -- but she's at least 10 years older than me! I didn't say this though and I don't know what he thought I was thinking.

    BTW, I saw Angela Davis about 10 years ago. Check out the comparison shot here:

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    The Yoko Ono part cracked me up too.

    Yes, it gets very repetitive...everyone thinks they are the first one to think of those great lines.

    Just like at work, I'm an IT Tech and can often be found at someone else's desk, fixing something on their computer. Co-workers will walk by and say things like "wow suzy q you sure have a nice tan" or "oh bob, look how you've changed"...just dumb. I've been here almost 5 years and it happened at other companies where I've worked also.

    I just smile and get back to work even though I usually want to groan and/or throw a side-eye.

    If it's the same people doing it over and over, maybe you can joke back or something to let them know that it's tired. If it's different folx, just smile and chalk it up as a compliment and forget about it.

    ~blessings~

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    As I've never had this happen, when I had just BC'd guys used to say 'hello my natural sistah' or call me a 'nubian princess'. While I took that to be a compliment, I don't know why I can't just be me and not something because of my hair :\\

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    Yea love Angela. I also love that she felt that she needed to wear an afro wig (as you can see from LBell's post) because her hair wasn't big or round enough for the perception of the movement. She's fly. It's an honor to be compared to her.

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    everyone has pretty much summed it up...my hubby picks at me all the time and he is the only one... thus far... i know he loves me and we do everything together but sometimes it gets old... he knows on what days to let it go and not bother me with his joking about my hair. he is bald and has been for some time now so what does he really have to pick at me about. I am in no way vulnerable to his insults or jokes. I love me and I am forever beautiful and my hair never looked so good. By the way, he plays in it all the time now than ever before... so he must truly like it...

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    Yea love Angela. I also love that she felt that...

    Whoa...where did you get this from? She wasn't wearing a wig in the 60s...that was her real hair. Why on earth would she wear a wig given what was happening to her back then? IN fact she's on record as saying that she finds it sad that today so many (black) people reduce her to a hairstyle...

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    ^During a speech of hers at my undergrad. She alluded that the fro was fake. Interesting...

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    I can't stand these kinds of comment about natural hair - instant side eye. When I would pick my hair out, my ex used to say stuff like that - "Power to the people!" "Angela Davis!" Now I know he didn't really mean this as a compliment because the first time I picked it out he was like, "Ummm, can I have the curls back?" I was like "Eff you buddy!"

    OP, just ignore it. People get insta-stupid around fly hair.

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    It might be annoying, but Angel Davis looked good in her afro and so do you. So who cares what they ment, take it as a complement.

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